If you're doing dinner, get on with it

[GatsbyWasntGreat]

I know this is super petty and I'm ready to be told I'm being unreasonable but FFS am I wrong to get utterly pissed off with being pestered when DH cooks dinner? When I cook, I just get on with it. If I don't know something, I use common sense or Google.

9 times out of 10, I cook because I enjoy it. DH is great with chores, doesn't need to be asked to do anything just like a grown adult BUT whenever he does cook dinner, I get pestered every two minutes.

"Do I cut this up small or really small?" "When do I put the coconut milk in?" "How much garlic shall I use?" "How long does the rice take?" "Is this chicken cooked through?" "Does this need any longer?" "How many leeks shall I put in?" "Which knife should I use for the carrots?" "Where's the grater?"

Urrrrrrrggggg.

12 years together and he has never cooked me a meal.
Oh actually he did curried leg of lamb once that he'd read about on some football fan website. I was nine weeks pregnant and couldn't eat it as I felt so sick and was living on a diet of mash potato and salt and vinegar chipsticks.
In his defence he's pretty good in other areas but cooking never.

Mine does 99% of the cooking. He doesn't ask dumb questions, but he takes ages and ages, chopping and chopping, and stopping for a glass of wine. Then when I go in - every single utensil, pot, dish has been used.

My dh does this too. Fine with everything else but just when he cooks. I often retreat to the bath.

I can relate. If I'm here he constantly asks me to come and check things. However if I'm at work and he has prepared a meal in my absence, it's perfectly fine. eyetwitch

Yup DH is the same. Constantly asking questions. He says it's because he's lost his confidence since I started doing the majority of the cooking (I love to cook).

Is he deliberately being annoying so you'll decide it's easier to do the cooking yourself in future?

At the weekend my OH used a nandos meal kit. Prior to us being together he had never cooked anything but cheese on toast, pizza from a packet, meat on the grill/ oven.

He repeatedly asked me questions. Whether it was the size to cut the veg and chicken, or how long to cook it for, how to cook the rice that came with it..... Each time I said "look at the box".

It's the nicest food he's ever cooked me.

But OMG it makes me rage inside and cringe outside.

@BiscuitDrama hahaha You sound great. I like your attitude.

ScreamingValenta he's not remotely that calculative!

He just bought me a spoon of sauce to try. "Does this need anything?"

Yes, putting on a fucking plate with the rest of the dinner.

I could have written this. He does it to give me chill time.........it's not when I get bombarded with stupid questions evert two minutes....

I appreciate the thought behind it, but in practice I want to run away and hide...

Can someone explain to my DH that things don't cook at the same rate if they aren't cut to the same size? Thanks.

Also if you don't take stuff out of the oven when cooked, it burns (he seems to think you can leave it in until you've washed up/cleaned surfaces/polished hob etc).

Anyone else's DH prioritise cleaning over eating? We always have cold food because of this. Does my head in.

My DH is exactly like this and even worse he calls me to the table 10-15 minutes before the food is ready. I work full time, do the majority of the cooking and often have to finish off work in my study in the evenings so that 15 minutes is incredibly precious to me. I've asked him to call me when is actually ready several times and he thinks it is no big deal.
The one time I waited 10 minutes to come down he has used to defend his calling me early saying 'you always take ages to come down'.
I've decided to start calling him 15 minutes before I am ready to dish up to make my point.

When mine does it he doesnt ask questions. He also doesn't google. Or listen to recipes. I once received spaghetti bolognese made with just tomato purée < not envy

Wish he bloody would ask questions. These days he sticks to old El Paso fajita kits.