My ex has 3 kids. One with me, 2 with his ex. He seemed lovely to start, but after I got pregnant his true colours started to show. It was like a switch flicked. He developed a tendency of badmouthing his ex to his kids, which bothered them. I asked him to stop and he said they deserve to know the truth (that she's a slut and a whore, neither of which she is). He slowly became more abusive towards me, and eventually I left. I wasn't going to hang around for my son to become like him.
I feel like a new woman now I've left him. My son is months old and doing amazingly. He's so happy and neither of us have to deal with mr aggressive manipulator anymore.
My huge concern that leads me down a path of panic? That he's going to tell my son all the things he's told the rest of the world about me:
- that I stopped him seeing his dad
- that I am a bitch/whore etc
- any other lies he wants to make up
In fairness, I have stopped him from seeing his son. This is because he was angry, aggressive, and once lost his temper so badly that he grabbed my son (2 months old) and shoved him towards me as if to say 'you deal with his crying' - he's an angry, short tempered abuser and I am fed up.
So scared he's going to manipulate my son in to thinking I'm a bad mother, that I stopped him seeing his dad out of pettiness (not the case) and that my son will turn against me.
I know, this is worst case scenario, but it's not unheard of.
Can anyone reassure me? I am becoming unwell with fear.