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To think Facebook has had it's day?

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Flippedouthere · 12/06/2019 08:33

Been wondering this for a while and again today as I scroll through my feed and it's full of adverts, posts from pages I've liked and a few crap memes/inspirational quotes shared by the same handful of people. As always, very little in the way of actual posts from friends.

I joined Facebook over 10 years ago when I had small children - I now have teens, as do the majority of my approx 120 friends. While there was always some crap and attention seeking drama, I used to enjoy seeing people's news and updates. These days, most friends rarely post. I only post, on average, every couple of weeks as I'm now busy working and also don't feel very motivated to as Facebook is so boring! When I do post I usually get a fair amount of likes and comments, so people are clearly still going on there!

I do have Twitter & Instagram accounts but don't really bother with them and have no intention of starting now. Nor am I looking for a new SM platform (DD uses Snapchat - no thanks!).

I'll admit I do sometimes hanker for the days when the internet didn't exist and spare time was spent, reading, watching films, pursuing hobbies, getting stuff done! Maybe I'll go back to that and post ocassional Facebook updates to stay in touch!

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PinkGlitter123 · 12/06/2019 15:08

I don't like it. Too many boastful posts, ex's trying to score points with one another and it just makes me feel depressed. People can be really annoying on there. There's a reason why its called 'fakebook' by people

GoodbyeRosie · 12/06/2019 16:25

I spend far, far more time on here when I should be doing other things.

Facebook is the least of my worries.

I sometimes think this site is exactly the same as watching reality T.V.

Paddington68 · 12/06/2019 16:27

Maybe it could be used to teach grammar.

PuppyMonkey · 12/06/2019 17:02

Crazy, I take your point about the likes thing on Twitter, but retweeting stuff so that your followers see a tweet you enjoy is literally what Twitter is all about isn’t it? ConfusedGrin

Flippedouthere · 12/06/2019 23:03

OP here - been at work, then busy so not been on here (or fb!).

Must say I'm quite relieved fb has become boring as it stops me wasting time on it. I don't plan to deactivate as there are still things I like about it:
It's a good way to stay in touch with certain distant friends and family - hopefully they enjoy my occasional updates as I enjoy theirs.
My wall is a good record of memories to look back on.
Some of the groups are useful such as the school ones & local community ones (although I rarely post on those anymore and don't get involved with debates as arguing with ignorant racist bigots never ends well!)
It's a good place to find out about events, travel deals, deals on tickets etc

I don't post anywhere near as much as I used to and even then I wasn't that prolific. Certainly never overshared. Each to their own, but I can't understand why people do that?! Seeing someone's hospital check Ins or details of their personal problems makes me cringe! Now my kids are teens it doesn't feel right to share too much about them. I only tend to post if I've been somewhere or done something I think people might be interested in.

I think the fact that most of my fb friends are in a similar place to me ( have teens & are working) might explain why they now post less. The few I have with younger kids do tend to post more.

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toriathet · 13/06/2019 00:17

not for me its where i get my support from and offer advice support to others as im in a lot of groups for numerous different disabilities and home education

i also use it to store memories as we do that much activities and holidays i cant remember what we did this day last year or beyond and i love it when a memory comes up and im like oh this was on today

i only have friends i want not people i know or just acquaintances,people have took offense before when ive said im not adding them or not willing to be added as i i only use it for family and friends

i only have 84 on there atm,a family member(granted he is young at 19)has over 1100

toriathet · 13/06/2019 00:20

pressed enter to soon
i dont use snap chat,Instagram or whats app and i also use it for free samples and competitions

Flippedouthere · 13/06/2019 08:22

i also use it to store memories as we do that much activities and holidays i cant remember what we did this day last year or beyond and i love it when a memory comes up and im like oh this was on today

I do exactly that - it's one of the few things I like about Facebook these days. As I said before, I don't overshare and don't tend to post negative stuff so it's nice to look back at the memories. To someone who doesn't know me well, it may appear I have a pretty perfect life when in reality it's far from perfect. For example, I have a child with ASD, a parent with dementia & gynae problems but I don't post about any of that as it's none of their business!!

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ewenice · 13/06/2019 08:47

I love it. As a long term ex-pat with friends all over the world it's a great way to stay in touch between emails and letters. Also I'm a member of a couple of groups specific to what I do which are hugely supportive and informative.

My stance on adding people as friends is whether if we were in the same area/town would I meet them for a coffee? If the answer is no they don't get accepted. I don't add anyone I don't know and I hide all the pop-ups so get very few.

I think it's a bit like marmite tbh. It suits me.

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