Competitive or just sensitive

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So, I met up with a family member who is very successful and extremely competitive. Has always been thus. There is no doubt about it that they are highly skilled, highly paid and highly respected at what they do. My work is different and quite niche and as was said "more fluffy" (so do prepare for hard times) but is it not then mildly infuriating when I say there was a particular thing I did (which would be highly rated in any quarter), they of course were more involved. It's not out the question but it did feel a bit like there couldn't be that we could both be successful in our own quarters without her able to just "pop" into my work to just prove how it's really done. Or am I just sensitive?

What do you mean by quarter?

Its something that anyone would see as a good thing - like a doctor saving a life

I’m not sure I quite understand your post, but I think the gist of it is being/ feeling put down by your competitive successful relative?

Ime competitive people are insecure , it stems from a sense of lack in themselves, so they do revel in opportunities to put people down.

It’s fine in the broader sense, the world needs driven people, but tough to be on the receiving end of.

I don't really understand the post either. But if she's so competitive and it bothers you, just stop telling her things. If she asks how work is going, just say "great" without any specifics.

Ok so try and clarify - the so do prepare for hard times was a put down about what I do ie: it’s all a bit of a jolly and in a harder economic climate it could just go down the swanny. Not totally unfair but I have been doing what I do for a long time.

We both work in different sectors. There is a bit of a cross over but the implication is that they do my job better than me (with no actual proof) part time - as an extra to their own much more important work

You're not being sensitive, what your relative is doing is cruel, annoying and rude AF. I would also stop telling her things about my career, and explain why if asked.

The relative told you, "so do prepare for hard times," because she thinks your work isn't important/valuable, is that correct? If so, she's a jerk. I wouldn't engage with her any longer, at least not about work.