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earsey14 · 12/06/2019 06:03

My neighbours have a solar light in their garden. OK in the evening but it is on all night which I don't like. I'm an insomniac and like the dark when I look outside. They carried on slamming the door when I asked them not to so I see no point in complaining. They have shouted through the party wall "I didn't threaten you" when I was talking on my landline-I should have said that I felt threatened. They seem oblivious to the fact that a woman who lives alone may feel frightened by an angry male neighbour knocking on her door after dark. Plus this was a private call. I'd use my mobile elsewhere in the house but the reception is bad in my home. And when I had a letter from the police saying these people wanted no contact with me I was glad-it had "we are very sorry if our cat goes in your garden" and we are very sorry if any balls go over the fence, please keep the balls" in it. I have no idea where the bit about the cat comes from as I adore cats. I feel they should not be shouting through the party wall in response to my private calls, especially as they want no contact. I also cannot understand why the nosey bullying control freak who used to own the other side didn't get sent a no contact note by the police as I had years of problems with her plus the man at the end of the road who I had hassle from just after my mum died-this resulted in my rape flashbacks returning after several years free of them. I started checking the coast is clear whenever I went out and I"d lurk round the corner if he was in my road when I got back. These are things I did when I was raped by a neighbour years ago somewhere else. I've had the flashbacks ever since. It makes me feel I am some sort of inferior being having to put up with these things whereas next door can just brush me aside. I went into my garden recently and the woman next door was entertaining friends. She said "oh no" as I went out. It is as if they think they have priority regarding using the garden. I used to love spending time in my garden-they have ruined that enjoyment.

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PanteneProV · 12/06/2019 06:06

They sound terrible OP. I don’t have any advice but they sound like really horrible bullies. Is this your forever home or is there a chance you will move one day?

earsey14 · 12/06/2019 06:15

I try to ignore them as much as possible. The cab said the no contact letter is tit for tat. It was sent by a young wpcso however a more experienced wpc took over. I liked her and felt I could trust her. She treated both sides equally and didn't take sides. Unfortunately she has left and and I now have another totally useless wcpso to contact if I need to re next door. I don't trust her at all. My ex used to say never trust the police and I see what he means. Also the woman over the back has trespassed in my garden and sent me a belittling reply when I brought this up. She does seem to be leaving me alone though. I just want to be left alone. As my mum used to say "there is nothing worse than a nosey interfering neighbour when you live on your own". Plus there is a woman round the corner with a horrible high pitched voice who I met elsewhere before I moved here. She always says stupid things when I see her and I smile and keep moving. She once mentioned my dad who committed suicide and I always fear she'll mention him. I grin and bear it as I don't want her to know my dad committed suicide.

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earsey14 · 12/06/2019 06:32

Got to go out so end Of chat. Thanks for letting me unload plus I know one person read it. SHE IS RIGHT, THEY ARE BULLIES. Need to ignore them as much as possible.

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Coil · 12/06/2019 06:38

You have so many problems with various neighbours. Do you have any possibility of moving?

Good luck.

MotherTime3 · 12/06/2019 06:40

Do you have any support in real life op?

Maitairiki · 12/06/2019 06:49

Interesting that you have issues with so many neighbours. Do you have a shared garden or just low walls?

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