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To wish people would RTFT!!!!!!!

52 replies

saraclara · 11/06/2019 19:31

I belong to other forums, but none are as bad as MN for posters not reading the thread. I know that some threads can be very long, but at least scroll through quickly and check for updates from the OP. It's easy enough when they're all colour highlighted.

And what's with people who come on and say "I haven't read the thread but...(insert stupid question that's been answered ten times, or a point that's been made 100 times)"

Do people actually want to look stupid? I don't get it.

Oh, and when the OP has already realised they're being unreasonable (five pages back) and accepted every point graciously, you look a complete bitch when you rant at them for being a terrible person.

OP posts:
theworldistoosmall · 11/06/2019 20:44

And bookmarks. Endless threads are taken up with nothing but posting for updates. Just bookmark the damn thing and add to the watch list if you must.

Willow2017 · 11/06/2019 20:48

It's infuriating. And very off putting for people genuinely needing support or advice. Posters just piling on op without reason, must make them feel superior I suppose.
Especially when posters haven't read ops explanations of what actually happened then wade in for something they didn't actually do, over and over.
Classic example on here today and people can't do simple division either apparently!

Just RTFT.

7yo7yo · 11/06/2019 20:49

U need a spa day HUN

DieSchottin93 · 11/06/2019 20:51

I didn't know until a couple of mk the ago the OP's posts could be seen in a different colour. I had to go into my settings and change it from there, it wasn't done automatically. So maybe other posters also don't know about this.

Isleepinahedgefund · 11/06/2019 21:00

Cancel the cheque OP

TheClitterati · 11/06/2019 21:12

It's the thread police who get on my tits ... Hmm

StillCoughingandLaughing · 11/06/2019 22:33

Sometimes to RTFT means to plough through pages and pages of people saying the same bloody things.

But surely if you post without reading the thread, you run the risk of being one of the people saying the same thing for the hundredth time? If you get that it’s frustrating to read, why make it worse?

BettyUnderswoob · 11/06/2019 22:37

Well, you’re right, of course StillCoughing, so I usually don’t even bother posting on the long, repetitive threads.

I guess when people do they must think they’re saying something new/witty/original or insightful!

GoFiguire · 11/06/2019 22:40

Are you on glue ?

Userplusnumbers · 11/06/2019 22:42

OP, did you mean to be so rude?

familycourtq · 11/06/2019 22:42

Probably best to cancel the cheque. HTH

TheRealShatParp · 11/06/2019 22:44

Okay so maybe it’s a bit annoying but not worth starting a thread about. Quiet night, OP?

marvellousnightforamooncup · 11/06/2019 22:46

The cheat's way is to skip to the end of the thread to see how far it's moved on before posting. You still should skim over it though to check your point's not been made before.

GoFiguire · 12/06/2019 04:16

Haven’t RTFT but this thread doesn’t have five pages. HTH

BeckyWithTheSplitEnds · 12/06/2019 04:24

You sound stressed. Book a spa day and leave the kids with him!

Octaviablake · 12/06/2019 06:28

Seriously? This isn't really a big deal. I like to post after reading JUST the OP because otherwise I can be influenced by other posters comments and I always want to give my genuine first impression. I also don't really want to read through pages and pages of comments. It's really not a big problem. It's just basically gossip.

LaMarschallin · 12/06/2019 07:50

otherwise I can be influenced by other posters comments and I always want to give my genuine first impression.

I do see that and I sometimes think that people reading through an emotional thread can pick up on the mood of it. At best, it may inform their opinion but at worst it can result in a pile-on with people vying to give more extremely phrased versions of an opinion expressed early on.
I do feel sorry though for OPs who've asked AIBU, have been told "Yes", accepted it and- 200 posts later - are still being taken to task for their original opinion.

However, the more factual ones can be torture to read. There's one about someone serving parmesan to a vegetarian because she didn't realise it contains rennet.
After over 600 posts, posters are still saying:
Ah, no cheese! She's a vegan then (no, she's not)
or
Just RTF label! (unless a cheese is specifically labelled vegetarian, it may well not be; a non-veggie may well not know that).

However, it is quite enjoyable to watch the efforts to be the most accommodating ("I'd eat foie gras and a raw steak if someone mistakenly gave it to me, not to be a nuisance; after all, it's dead anyway") or the most virtuous and best ("WHAT??! You once ate processed sugar without realising animal bones can be used in the process although generally not present in the end product? You are NOT a vegetarian and should have your hummus privileges revoked!!") type of vegetarian.

Vulpine · 12/06/2019 07:53

Who made you the boss of mumsnet? It doesn't bother me in the least

Tilikum · 12/06/2019 07:59

Octaviablake

Seriously? This isn't really a big deal. I like to post after reading JUST the OP because otherwise I can be influenced by other posters comments and I always want to give my genuine first impression. I also don't really want to read through pages and pages of comments. It's really not a big problem. It's just basically gossip.

It makes that poster look like an obnoxious know-it-all who think their opinion is so important that they just have to give it immediately, even though the thread is 3 days old, 400 posts long and the situation has changed considerably. At least read the OPs responses to see how the situation has developed.

Vulpine · 12/06/2019 08:02

No it doesn't. It's just another opinion. You can read it or ignore and move on. No big deal.

Roussette · 12/06/2019 08:02

It's hardly being the boss of mumsnet is it? The OP is making a very valid point.
I totally agree.
I never post on a thread unless I am pretty sure I have got the gist of it. If it's long, I always read all the OP's posts at the very least. I usually only post if I have read the whole thread. If it's up to say 500 posts I tend to think that what I have to say will've been covered so I don't post.

There is nothing more frustrating than those who have only read the last post of 500 posts and asks a question that the OP has covered back in post no. 50.

NameChangeNugget · 12/06/2019 08:21

Ring 101 and log an “official” complaint

LaMarschallin · 12/06/2019 08:22

Who made you the boss of mumsnet? It doesn't bother me in the least

Do you mean me? Isn't anyone allowed to give an opinion - which is what it was - unless it concurs with yours?

Who made you the boss of Mumsnet?

(Actually, my official title is the Grand Duchess of Mumsnettia - there was a lovely inauguration with a crown and stuff; sorry you missed it. I do like to come amongst my people anonymously at times, though.)

SnuggyBuggy · 12/06/2019 08:25

I always assume that it's the sort of person in real life who loves the sound of their own voice an pontificating on anything regardless of how informed they are on it.

Reallybadidea · 12/06/2019 08:29

Not rtft is presumably why people continue posting on a thread that the OP abandoned 3 days ago. Which bumps it, so more people who haven't rtft post... and so the cycle continues Hmm

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