Sex after childbirth

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The idea of it is terrifying.

I haven't had sex since giving birth to my son a few months ago and am now single as his dad is not on the scene anymore.

I had what they described as minor birth injuries but I did tear upwards past my urethra and I still get pain.

I can't masturbate or put pressure there and am terrified to try,

I've been to doctors who don't seem that interested and told me that it's normal. Even though I'm nearly 8 months down the line and there's no injury to actually see (just pain).

I'm terrified to ever let another man touch me (due to the pain and also my unbearable new body).

Has anyone else ever felt like this? I'm sure this will be an overwhelming yes!

Try to look for a more caring doctor?

@Luxembourgmama I'm actually in the process of switching surgeries so hopefully there will be a more understanding doctor there.

See another GP (pref female) at the practice and ask for a gynae referral if she can’t sort it for you herself.
It’s not “normal” to still have pain this long after delivery, and it should have been flagged up at your post natal check up.

@Babdoc they didn't even look at me or ask me any questions at my post natal check up. Just did all the checks on baby and asked if I felt I had PND. I went back about this pain about a month ago and they told me it's normal and can last up to a year! No idea where that statistic came from but I didn't feel very listened to.

It is not normal to still be in pain, 8 months after childbirth! :( I would suggest you ask your friends to recommend a new OBGYN or ask your GP for a referral. In the meantime, badger your GP to prescribe some pain medication unless you see a decent OBG. How on earth are you managing to walk around all day? :( Hope you get treated soon. x

If you're in that much pain go back to the doctor or find a new one. I'm sure it's not normal.
I had a horrific time with my 2nd and ended up failed vbac, failed forceps and a second emcs that was "bigger" than my first because the baby was very firmly wedged (I'm sure there are better medical terms than that!). I was a mess and it took time to recover and to have sex again. However by 8 months i wasn't in such severe pain as you describe, no where near. It's well documented that some GPs/doctors don't take women's pain as seriously as they should so you might have to push for a second opinion.

It's not painful all the time, just when I put pressure there and sometimes when I go from sitting to standing too quickly I feel even worse now I know it's not normal!

I am 13 weeks post natal and tore similarly. I needed intermittent catheterisation afterward for a while and I have an anterior prolapse and my husband and I managed(?) To have sex for the first time the other day. It wasn't painful but felt a bit weird. I think you need to see a women's health physio for an assessment. Sometimes after birth trauma our pelvic floor can become too tight as well so that may be adding to your discomfort.