Is this the right decision

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My DD is doing her GCSE’s. She has anxiety and some emotional attachment issues. It may be her age but she has a strong sense of injustice when she is left out of knowing things (even small)

Someone (an adult) she was close to as a young child has tragically passed away. DD had not seen them for some years for lots of reasons but she was very fond of them and has fond memories

When I found out I asked our whole family not to tell DD. I don’t think she will benefit from knowing and I think the circumstances of their passing will really really upset her and she needs to focus on her exams

Her exams end on Friday though so I could possibly tell her then but I think she will dwell on it and be sad and I am so torn. She’s 16 and old enough to be told these things and I believe in honesty but does she really need to know and will it benefit her to know? Is this part of growing up I need to treat her more maturely and not try to coddle her

I am overall wondering whether some things are worth knowing

I think the toughest thing about being an adult - and particularly a parent - is that actually, it would be nicer to be ignorant of all sorts of things. But sadly, the world doesn't work like that so we all have to muddle through learning how to process all the less-nice stuff as well as the good-to-know stuff.

Hope the rest of your DD's exams go well and that she is not too upset when you tell her

Thanks that is mostly what was going around my mind. AIBU about that I know, however much you wish you could, I won’t