to set some rules about frying onions?

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Was woken up at 6.45am this morning by the sound and smell of my new lodger chopping then violently frying onions. I say violently, as he seems to be deep frying them or something - I could hear oil practically boiling, popping and splattering. It didn't help he'd left the kitchen door wide open, and it's a single level flat.

I got woken up the other day by him doing the same at around 11.45pm. I think he was prepping his lunch this morning, but the smell!!!

DP (who doesn't live here but stayed last night) complained bitterly about it to me this morning but when I said I'd sort it, said 'Oh it's fine.'

AIBU to set some rules on cooking smelly food? Or do I just suck it up as part and parcel of living with someone?

Before anyone asks, yes I do have a lodger agreement but it only talks about noise, not pungent cooking smells...

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Don't clean it up for him, let him do it when he gets back. Maybe he was in a rush.

I guess it just seems strange you only mentioned that he'd left things messy when people said you were being unreasonably restrictive about onion frying timetables.

Well I didn't think I was unreasonable about the mess but only mentioned it when I started to doubt myself. Hardly strange to mention something related

I can smell melted cheese, melted cheddar smells awful. I really like cheese (not cheddar though).

OP why not just ask him to clean up when he gets back/up? If he scrubs the ceramic, he'll probably remember to wipe it up quicker next time.

You can also remind him to close the kitchen door if he's cooking when you're in bed.

I feel for you, I had a flatmate who would fry eggs in about an inch of fat every meal, the fat splattered everywhere

Then he took to regularly cooking squid stew (Spanish dude), which was amazing to eat (he always offered some of his food, so I could never be cross with him )... but honestly, that squid stew smell!

life....

Maybe he can use a little bit of oil and slowly cook the onions with a lid on while brushing his teeth (it's a flat so all rooms in one floor?) if time is of importance to him? Much less noise and smell. If there is water in the pan it can get very noisy, so it might be that.

Btw, onions are part of most nice dishes. We are surrounded by South Asians and they really like frying their onions I really appreciate the fact that he has to get up early and prepares lunch. Can he only cook once for both lunch and dinner? It will reduce the noise and clean up time. I am too lazy to cook twice a day. But he DEFINITELY needs to be more careful regarding splattering and clean the cooker.

My landlady would casually mention that I would cook every day as she didn't want me to spend her gas and even other students at the halls (too boring) and I would honestly reply "and what do you eat?". Others would complain whenever I cooked fish or squids (they were from areas away from the sea and never ate fish) but as they were fellow tenants who would mess up the kitchen worse than pigs I didn't care.

I would ask him to make sure he cleans up after himself and keeps the kitchen door closed. I had a lodger who loved to eat kippers when he came home drunk usually about 2am. 🤢.

Your partner is BU to complain as your lodger pays you to live there and he doesn't presumably. The lodger is only BU if he doesn't clean up after himself and offer you some of whatever he's making,as the smell of frying onions makes me salivate!