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To suddenly dislike some friends?

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LeilaDarling · 10/06/2019 17:51

It's all come about so suddenly; not sure whether I've had a "personality epiphany" but I suddenly feel either an intense dislike for a few of my friends.
Perhaps a close bereavement triggered me noticing their short comings more but in one of the cases she has always been quite detestable but she intimidates me with her hyper mania and aggression and I feel unable to cut off from her.
So as not to drip feed too much:
Friend one: only ever texts about herself, never asks how I am, is constantly a "woe is my life" persona, a true victim to her circumstances and will take hours of advice but never act upon it.
Friend two: can be kind, attentive and thoughtful BUT is also quite manipulative and revengeful, she is blackmailing a man she had an affair with and someone else has also told me she has stolen from a work colleague (I don't know if this is true).
Friend three: perhaps the most heinous of all, menacing, me me me person, I have good reason to believe she is involved in really unpleasant activities (money wise), she swings from manic to low, aggressive to pleasant, she rings me and seems to be angry that I'm happily married with children and living a fairly straightforward life. I do feel anxious when I hear from her as she is incredibly menacing at times and she can turn nasty at the drop of a hat. She has also intimated to me that she would divulge a confidence I once foolishly told her.
If you have got this far, thanks, I feel incredibly weak and pathetic reading it back.
I'm one of those softies that are always uplifting and cheerful to others and have always made friends easily.
These are just 3 of many friendships but I feel really overwhelmed and drained by these women.

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justeatasalad · 10/06/2019 17:54

I'd suggest you make new friends, life is too short to waste on these people.

PhillisPearce · 10/06/2019 17:55

They don't sound very pleasant to me., I would avoid them all

LeilaDarling · 10/06/2019 17:58

But should I do it subtly and phase them out by ignoring calls - feeble haha - or actually "call them out" as Mumsnetters suggest? Sometimes I feel like really telling them what I think - particularly friend 3.

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PhillisPearce · 10/06/2019 17:59

Nope, don't waste your energy, I think I would just be noncommittal to any plans

justeatasalad · 10/06/2019 18:05

Just phase them out , don't commit to plans , ignore messages /calls .

LeilaDarling · 10/06/2019 18:08

Thanks for your replies Thanks

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