to just let the ticket go? Camping on my own...

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Meant to be going to a kids festival that's 5 days long called Starry Skies.

It looks amazing and I paid £165 for my ticket. I'm now not going with my son's dad as we aren't together anymore. Feel like my life is falling apart.

Desperately want to go to this festival but it's going to be impossible just me and a baby isn't it? (9 month old).

How the hell will I put a tent up? Get everything to and from the car etc if I'm on my own? Am I mad even considering it?

Feeling pretty low and really want to go still.

Is he not going anymore? If he's not, would he sell your ticket to a friend/family member to go with you?

@WeaselMcWeasel he's not allowed to contact me due to domestic violence so definitely not going to be contacting me re ticket (sorry, wasn't relevant to initial post). Dont think any of my friends would be interested.

Go! People will help. Honestly they will x

Have you posted on the FB/ other social media site for the event? Or contact the organisers - I haven't been but friends have and I would be really surprised if someone/ another group wouldn't help you out. I am fairly certain there will be other single parent families there.

I would still go, use a baby sling so hands are free to carry items and use a pop up tent if possible.

@Wellandtrulyoutnumbered it's all child focussed, they have a 'bub hub' and my son will absolutely love the colours and sounds. I'm just so nervous about doing it on my own. I need it though. A break away from reality.

You can do it! Take a buggy, baby in buggy while you put the tent up & get stuff from the car. People will help, people are generally much more helpful than we give them credit for!
If you go & you hate it there’s no law that says you can’t come home early.
It sounds like you need a nice time - throw caution to the wind & give it a go.

@Workerbee1 I'm not on Facebook but might email them and see what they suggest. Either that or I splurge and hire a van that is kitted out - hard to justify though!

Oh I'm sorry :(

I think you should go, like a PP says people will help.

I went to many music festivals with DS alone when he was young.

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Pack light.

I had a pop up lightweight play pen like this which I would put DS in while I got the tent put up.

It’s not difficult to do but one of the great things about festivals is the community of people, if you are struggling you can ask someone camped nearly for a hand and 9/10 they will always be happy to lend a hand.

Or if you think it will be too much work get a pop up tent.

I also had an inflatable Moses basket style bed for DS that was brilliant for camping.

It is completely doable and I’m sure you will have a great time.

Put the baby in the buggy and put up the tent. Ask someone to help.
Have a great time!

I'm not sure if there is camper van camping. The arrangements getting hear from car to site have changed this year too. There was a Facebook post and I'm sure they'll be info on line.

People are very obliging. What sort of tent do you have? Go for the smallest one practical if you don't have one. Although allow for being about to stand in it.

Do you baby wear? Sling baby on back. I camped for first time solo with children when youngest was similar age. Much easier than following year when she was running about

*gear not here!

It’s incredibly daunting, but just had a look and it seems amazing! I think you are 100% going to get help and support. And in years to come you can say ‘we went to a festival together, just you and me’. Go! X

Do you have his ticket, or does he have it?

Pm me op. I’m going with my family and I’ll happily help you with your tent.
It’s very very chilled and friendly, lots of people will help, but I’m making a pledge to x

Personally I would not go to a festival on my own with a 9 month old baby. The baby is not going to miss it (may well be happier at home with normal routines) and if the weather is bad it could be hugely stressful.

How lovely and kind of ohyesiam

You most definitely should go.. Even if its not for the whole 5 days and you leave after one or two..

@Ohyesiam oh wow! Small world as they only allow 250 families :) have you been before? It's my first year and I go to Shambala every year.

That is such a kind offer!

@Ohyesiam well done! Enjoy op

I see that you have a festival buddy already OP!
How brilliant, and with help my advice may be useless, but when I did festivals with my 2 I used Quechua 3-man pop up tents (they are double skinned so not damp like budget pop-ups). We slept in one and stored kit in the other. I could bung a toddler in a tent and zip it up while i put the pegs in. It made the camping pretty simple.

Yes, I was there last year. I’m on the crew actually so I’ll be all set up by the time you arrive, and ready to help!
It’s about elleventy trillion times less hectic than Shambala, but perfect for young families.

Aw I hope you decided to go OP. I’m in the same position - going with friend who cancelled - and taking three kids on my own. You can totally do it.

Have a fabulous time OP, you can do this and I think that doing it will really help you