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To be grumpy about this?

9 replies

Tofupho · 09/06/2019 20:56

Been working all weekend to help finish a work project. We won’t get overtime (nature of industry) and I have been working until midnight for the last month and most of this weekend - fairly junior as well, but no complaints. My male colleague, same level as me, asked if I would do a couple of his parts for him - I agreed and took them off him, sent them back and assumed he would cc me into the email chain we had with the bosses. He didn’t... I asked if he had sent the pack of work and he said he already did followed by some chat about “haha I don’t even know who’s doing what now, it’s all so confusing”.... I saw red. Was polite To him but separately emailed my bosses with my work, saying that I wasn’t sure if they already had it but here were the bits I had done, apologies if this had already been sent to them. Will blame on lack of communication/cc with colleague if asked about it. I’m so annoyed! I would never do that to someone and that’s 5 hours of my Sunday I won’t get back. I’m still in front of the computer now. Did I handle it ok? Why does it tend to be men doing this to women? My bosses are really busy so probably won’t give two shits/even notice which somehow makes it worse!

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StealthPolarBear · 09/06/2019 20:58

He took credit for your work?

MrsXyzAbc · 09/06/2019 20:59

Don't assume next time. Tell him to make sure he cc's you. Yes it's shit and frustrating, I agree... may or may not have been deliberate

user1493413286 · 09/06/2019 21:00

Definitely good to say something; sounds like he was trying to take credit for your work

Tofupho · 09/06/2019 21:03

Yes looks like he did take credit for my work!

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Tofupho · 09/06/2019 21:03

Thanks all x

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TixieLix · 09/06/2019 21:10

Either insist the colleague gives you credit for any of their work you complete, or just refuse to do their work for them. Why couldn't your colleague have done the work himself? Is his time more valuable than yours?

Tofupho · 09/06/2019 21:16

I thought i was being nice by splitting and was bettering my own reputation - thinking he would give me the credit as we are a team. I am not naive and it did cross my mind that he wouldn’t cc me but didn’t think anyone would be that sneaky. So tired of it all. I work in the financial industry and it can be a bit like this. I’m annoyed as prior to this I felt we all got on well. My opinion of him has really changed - he has sent me the initial email on my polite request and it really isn’t clear that I have done sections of it

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MrsBobDylan · 09/06/2019 22:10

My ex boss was female and used to pull this sort of shit all the time. She was a career climber with sharp elbows.

She got very far on the back of my work and when it looked like she might get found out, she managed to push me out of my job.

Be wary when dealing with those without a moral compass. Protect yourself.

Tofupho · 12/06/2019 00:41

Thanks! It’s frustrsting though Envy

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