My Dad is 80 and in poor health, he currently lives in Sheltered accommodation but I'm told he needs more care than can be provide there so I need to look for a residential home. For the last 20 years I have lived 250miles away with my DH and child. Managing my Dads issues from afar has been challenging but I think I've done ok. The last year he has gone deaf which has made things more difficult and it's been harder to keep on top of things.
DH is not keen at all about my Dad coming to live closer to us. It's only a suggestion at the moment but I think he's being unreasonable. It's not like he's moving in with us or that he has that long left to live really. DH is a jealous person and has said he thinks it will cause him a lot of hassle and said I hardly take any notice of him as it is! He is the one glued to work and at most spends 45min in the evening with me watching something he wants to watch. It will be hassle initially but hopefully once my Dad is settled I can go see him in the day whilst DH is at work. DH doesn't understand why I feel so responsible for my Dad. A big big issue is that we no longer have contact with DH's Dad, I admit I am partly to blame for this but I have a very good reason for not wanting that person in my life and my Child's life. DH chooses himself not to contact him but blames me. It's a stressful time, I need DH support not arguments.