So I have a friend who’s been with her DP for 2 years, they don’t live together but see each other few times a week. It’s great when they’re together, she’s happy. But the problem is when they’re apart, she will text him on WhatsApp and he won’t open her messages or will sometimes read them and not reply for hours, even though he’s always online. He’s not at work when doing this, he’s the type of person who’s always glued to his phone. When he doesn’t reply after 4-6 hours, she will sometimes phone him and he will decline her call or not pick up. He will then tell her he was at home busy doing something, his argument is that if he doesn’t reply he’s busy, her argument is that if he’s busy why can’t he just say he’s doing XYZ and will get back to her later, and she would just leave him alone. She doesn’t understand why he’s always on WhatsApp but will claim he’s busy. And everyone knows when you’re online on WhatsApp you’re literally clicked on the app and you’re online, unlike FB messenger which shows you’re online when you’re not really on.
She wants to lose weight and start a business, so I suggested she focus on herself for a bit and leave him alone. She’s scared he will think she’s lost interest and move on, but I said to her if he does move on it was never meant to be? AIBU? I just think he takes her for granted because she’s always the one initiating contact and he needs to see what life is like without her.