AIBU to think it should be easier with DH and toddler?

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A few weeks ago I went on holidays with DH and 20 month old DS. I went back to work when DS was a year old and DH and I split the childcare around work (or so I thought), mainly with me doing more days but a few weeks my DH does. When we were away, most days my DS wanted to spend all his time with DH - nappy changes, putting him to bed, general cuddles etc. AIBU to feel heartbroken? DH plays with DS a lot and I find it hard to manage ‘it all’ but I think i’ve just realized DH has prioritized relationship with DS, whilst I get house work etc done. Where do I go to next?

Ahh this is hard; I've had seasons of this.

For me, it took me to a place of reviewing my own attitude to 'getting it all done'; and to me and DH together talking about the split in childcare / housework.

Basically the result was me doing a bit less, and being willing to let some things 'go' / standards slip on order to enjoy focused play time with DD a bit more. And it involved DH being more 'multitasking-minded' when he was playing with DD; eg doing some tidying simaultaneously.

But it may be entirely different for you. How do you feel more generally about the split in home / childcare responsibilities between the two of you?