Can you ever get it back and if not, how important is it in a successful marriage/long term relationship?
Been married to DH only a year but together for 5 years. DH is my best friend and pretty much perfect in every way, can’t fault him at all and I love him to bits. He’s kind, honest, makes me laugh and I know he adores me. The only issue is, whilst I can see that he is very physically attractive and I know I’m lucky to have him, I just don’t feel particularly sexually attracted to him anymore.
For the first three years or so we couldn’t keep our hands off each other. Nothing has changed in that he still feels that way for me and he still takes very good care of himself, has a good body etc... I just don’t feel as though I want to rip his clothes off anymore. Sex is enjoyable when we do eventually DTD, but getting there feels a bit forced on my part as I just don’t really feel that way about him anymore. We are affectionate in other ways but the sexual excitement for him on my part has gone.
We’re youngish (v early 30s) have no DC yet so it’s not been caused by sleepless nights or any other issues in our marriage or age related. So I’m wondering....Is it normal to feel this way over a period of time and how important is sexual attraction in a long term relationship/marriage?