to feel lost without physical contact?

[gordondear]

I've been single for a short 4 month, but was with an abuser for 3 years prior to this, who didn't do physical contact unless it was rough, emotionless sex.

I've recently been craving human touch, but not sex. I just want an intense hug, or for someone to hold my hand tightly, just some kind of intimate touch. But not sex, I stress this.

It's weird. I find myself fantasising about a kind man putting his arms around me and just holding me tight. Not even necessarily a partner, just someone I trust.

It's getting to a point where I'm getting quite down about it.

Does this sound really weird?

Any Ce Rock style dance class in your area? Join an Amateur Dramatics Group? lots of super friendly tactile people. Find a local trainee beauty school that does reduced price massage? Sorry you’re feeling like this.

It’s actually a good sign, after my rape I had just threat and hate in me and my therapist spent a lot of time activating the “soothing” system, and that craving for physical touch is part of that. It means at least you are open to care and love. Which I now am again so I get it.

Doesn’t help when it’s not available but at least you recognise the need if that makes sense? You are open to self care after the abuse x