Refusing to drop and pick up children to ex?

[Andra09]

Me and ex split last year. I left him because i was unhappy with the relationship. We have 2 small children. We agreed that he would see them every other weekend as he lives an hour away and doesn't have a car (but he can drive and has access to his brother in laws car). I said I would do both journeys UNTIL he got a car. It's been a year and i'm still doing it. AIBU to refuse to do it any longer?

No! Not at all!

Who moved the hour away?

Yep, time to stop. At the very least he should do half.

Did he move away?

It doesn’t actually matter who moved away legally. He wants access to his children so he can do some of the leg work. YANBU at all.

I think.it does matter who moved and why.

I moved away to be closer to my parents so they could help me out x

If you moved away I think you should do at least 50 50.

YWNBU to stop doing all of it.

A 50/50 split of journeys would seem fair

You could meet halfway-
or one could pick up & the other drop off-
or you could alternate driving so every other visit you drop off & pick up.

Yanbu, ex has jut cancelled having the children today, and I’m sure it’s because I said he should come and get them.

He got the arse the other day and said that’s it not far we should do 50/50 so I said that’s a great idea, we should because so far I’ve done about 99%

Today is his turn to pick them up and funnily enough he’s cancelled. Makes a lot of noise about wanting them 50% percent of the time and how I stop him seeing his children.

Thanks everyone. Even 50/50 would be ok with me

Yeah it should be 50:50 if you've, understandably, created the distance.

Start doing 50/50....

50 50

Sorry I do think you are being unreasonable when you moved the children away. Give him a set time at which point you want to make it 50/50.

It doesn’t actually matter who moved away legally. He wants access to his children so he can do some of the leg work.

It does if it goes to court. My ex was told he had to do all the pick ups and drop offs as he moved, and my cousin was told she had to do them all as she moved the children away from the NRP.