To buy Grandad a father’s day present!

[Shootingstar1115]

Hi all, I’ve alwags been incredibly close with my grandparents. I didn’t have a dad so my grandad was like a father figure. He is my hero.

I always buy him a father’s day card and present from me and DC.

My Oh doesn’t understand this. He says that father’s day is for dads and not grandads and he never bought his grandfather anything (he never had a dad either so maybe he just doesn’t get the whole father’s day thing).

Ofc I’m still going to buy him a card and gift as usual but it’s got me thinking. How many of you buy Grandad’s a gift?

Shops sells cards and products for grandads/grandpas etc.

I think Father's Day is a special day for all father figures.
I buy my Nan gifts for Mother's Day too! YANBU

You don't need your OHs permission to buy presents for other people.

As you said if people didn't do it , Hallmark wouldn't be making the cards and tat associated monikered gifts.

Personally I wouldn't do it simply because I have parents, who no one can replace, and it is my parents job to give their parents such cards.

Grandparents day is 8 September 2019, although I appreciate it is an Americanism.

YANBU we always got cards for our grandparents on those days as they were our parents' mother or father.

My dad is my daughter's father figure, as is my brother. Her "father" has never wanted anything to do with her.

She always makes a big deal of it for her grandad and sends my brother a message of thanks.

It hurts her so much as it reminds her of her loss (hopefully when she's older she'll realise it isn't a loss as he's a selfish arse) so doing something for Grandad helps her immensely.

You don't need to justify yourself to your OH.

I get my grandad a card and small present. They will not be around for ever. Same with Nana for Mother's Day.

They used to take me away to their mobile by the sea for 3 months of the year and I have lived with them over the years.

Having a dinner for my birthday at the weekend (I didn't want to make a big deal out of it) But Nana and Grandad were the first ones I invited.

I lost one Grandad this year, and his wife a few years ago so I know how precious they are!

You don't stop being a father because you become a grandfather as well.

I think it's fine for descendants to go up their family line and mark the occasion, if they wish, with father's in any generation.

Tell you r DO that he can choose what happens in his side of the family, just as you'll choose what happens in yours. The sides do not have to match.

We celebrate grandparents on Mothers / Fathers day here. Usually a card and gift from DH and I for our respective parents and then a home made card / gift from the dc.

We get lots of lovely support, help and advice from our parents which benefits our dc. It's nice to recognise this

Agree we also send gift to my parents from dcs as they do so much for us, not so much in-laws as they don't celebrate those days themselves and partly because they don't actually have much to do with us.

I always bought my grandparents cards & a token gift on mothers/fathers day and do the same with DD now for my parents from her.

There was a similar thread around Mother’s Day and opinion was really divided on whether you should get grandparents cards or not.

We always buy grandad a card and present, same with nanna on mothers day.