If a man was emotionally (and possibly physically) abusing his 8 year old...

[miti]

...hypothetically, would a woman who also had a child with the same man, and had her own safeguarding concerns, be able to reasonably withhold access to their 1 year old? Without having her arse handed to her by the courts?

I've been told by many that regardless of abuse, the courts always grant access (I am fully expecting access to be granted so want to do damage limitation). Even if a man has abused (emotionally, breaking things, breaking toys, rough play that is not appropriate, child in severe distress) one child, and neglected another, he will still get access.

Curious to hear opinions. Preparing for a long court battle but I will fight tooth and nail for my baby boy.

P.s. posted again in AIBU as I'm very worried.

If the father has PR you cannot unilaterally decide to withhold access. There would have to be severe, proven concerns for a court to withhold access.

Access might be through a contact centre.

@UnicornBrexit I am currently withholding access as I have a non molestation order stating he can't come within 100 metres of me, threaten me etc, and it's not safe to leave my son with him as he loses his temper (and has done with my baby son before). Surely withholding access until it can be done safely (through the courts) is what any good mother should do if they feel their child is in danger?

Ah a drip feed.

Is the current access court ordered ?

If not, then until it is court ordered, you aren't breaking any court orders!

Why was this not covered in the non-mol ?

Is this the same as yesterday?

unicorn it's not a drip feed. I just added an extra point in response to your comment.

The non mol is due to the abuse I've suffered. I don't think that non mols usually cover children issues but I may be wrong?

It's not court ordered but I'm expecting a court date through the post which I'm very nervous about.

@freshstartnewme yes - I put at bottom that I posted in AIBU for traffic. I'm very worried and could use all the responses I can get.