He's a liar and I'm not mad

[Fluffa]

Ended a 7 year relationship. The whole time he wouldn't have a joint account or discuss money. I asked him if he has debt and I was crazy and obsessive according to him. Well today I've found out he's 30 grand in debt. Can't believe I let him gaslight me and make me believe I was crazy

Well done for trusting your instincts and getting out

Lucky escape!

How did you find out?

I bet you feel vindicated

Onto better things for you!

Dodged a bullet there, well done for getting out!

I was resourceful let's just say. never again

I implore women to look after their own assets seriously. Do not let anyone gaslight you

The minute we split he took a 30 grand loan out wtf

Whose name is it in?

Which address was he registered at when he applied for the loan?

You may have to disassociate yourself from him with Experian and Equifax in order to prevent debts being run up in your name.

So he wasn't in debt but then you split and he took the loan out then? I agree with what ICantBelieveIDidThis said. Check it.

Check he hasn't dirge your signature to her the loan.

Forged your signature

Do a credit check ASAP to make sure it’s not your loan too! Good job for getting rid of him.

He's took the loan out just before we split probably to pay off all the credit cards he said he didn't have! He was obvs losing my financial input so he's needed a loan to cover everything. I've done a credit check my score is good

Credit checks are a few weeks behind the curve.

Keep a very close eye on everything.

I implore women to look after their own assets seriously

One could argue one way of doing this would be not to have a joint account. Which you didn't.

Maybe he did you a favour then? As there was no joint account, your assets were safe and he couldn't pass his debt onto you. Your credit score was therefore protected.

Many people prefer not to pool their money anyway - there is a household account into which each partner puts a certain amount to cover the regular bills, mortgage, but otherwise keep the rest of their finances separate.

However, the fact he wouldn't discuss money with you regardless of the joint account thing ought to have caused concern long before seven years.

He will very likely take out credit cards on a previous address or even on your new address that he has never lived at if he knows the postcode stay vigilant!