Is this acceptable?

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Ex decides which days he has DS.
I usually have to text and ask which days that week rather than him coming to me.
And then, I'm usually the one to text the day before given night to see what the plan is for the next day.
He was supposed to be having him tonight. I've heard nothing yet. I'm assuming I'll get a message after 3pm telling me when he's getting him, but I've never not been the one to text so he may not bother at all!
Is this acceptable? To give such short notice on when he'll collect him and to have him ready for? To never make plans unless I initiate it?

I don’t think so, it’s no good for DS who would be better off with consistency!

Not at all acceptable. There needs to be a routine in place

Go to mediation and get a schedule together. Or you will be answerable to him forever.

Nope not reasonable at all. Mediation & schedule as pp has said

Not acceptable, but difficult to change, I think.
MY exh still just says things like 'cant have them this weekend' on Friday night, and even then only after I've text him.
He cannot conceive that i might have plans too.
Its infuriating but if everything else is ok I'd let it go, and if it isnt I'd probably pick a different battle.
But we all have our lines in the sand, and mine may not be yours

Share an online calendar and plan 3 months in advance.
This has worked for years for myself and ex wife. We have regular routine and any commitments outside of this are in the diary.

If either of us wants a weekend away then it is in. It's not set in stone but gives both of us a chance to plan things with the children and our own social lives as well.