To think I’m asexual or just haven’t met the right person

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I’m 49. I’m considered to be attractive.

I don’t enjoy sex & don’t think I ever had. It’s not even enjoying it really it’s given the choice I’d rather not.
I can see myself whilst DTD just moaning when expected & going through the motions.
I was married for 24 years & been with current partner for 3 years.
Both had/have quite a high sex drive.
I’ve only ever instigated sex after it has been mentioned in a conversation IYSWIM ?
I don’t feel frustrated although I do use my wand if I’m on my own

I dont think you are asexual, necessarily, but then, what do I, or anyone else for that matter, know about it?
And does it matter what label you put on yourself anyway?
What does matter, I think, is that you feel that you have to have sex when you dont enjoy it.
There is a label for that.

You might want to have a look at www.asexuality.org for more info. Asexuality is essentially not finding someone sexually attractive, some asexuals can and do have sex or have a sex drive or want a relationship.

It could be the wrong person, it could be that you're asexual, I'd not put a label on it unless you want to.

I know it wasn't the question, but i just wanted to say it's ok to not have sex, just because you don't want to. Not everyone does.