To change DC schools so we can buy a house?

[ShampooKangaroo]

DH and I have always rented and are now sick of it - mainly because our rent is v high and is (arguably) ‘wasted’ money. We get by but cannot save or have much extra money for treats, holidays etc.

The area where we rent is great but completely unaffordable for us to buy - WIBU to move to another (cheaper) area to buy a house and change DC schools? They are both in junior school, one happier than the other but both with plenty of friends etc. I know it’s the sensible thing to do financially but I can’t stop worrying about the upheaval for them.

Buy the house. The kids will adjust and their future will be more financially secure

Are the proposed new schools decent? I wouldn’t do it if it meant pulling them out of a really good school for a not so great one. But if it’s just a question of change and upheaval then I’d go for it, your financial security is important and they’re still young so should adjust relatively easily.

The proposed new primary (and later secondary) options are both good as far as I can tell, although very different from what DC are used to (in terms of size/uniforms/approach etc).

It just feels so sad to take them away from kids they've known since they were toddlers, and so daunting to start all over again...

They’ll be fine with support etc. We moved for the same reason and our DCs are very happy in their new schools (well it’s been three years!)

We did exactly that and moved to a completely different part of the country. The (3) DCs settled really well they were Jnr and infant school age, within about 3 months it was like they always lived here. Go for it.

Buy the house.

I moved from the city so in turn, DC’s moved schools, so we could buy rather than rent. Our mortgage is almost half the price rent was and it is obviously our house so no landlord to answer to. My DC soon settled into their new school. Your children will adjust, definitely do it.

Thanks all, very reassuring. There is a chance we could move just about close enough to commute the kids back to their current school, but that seems like it might just prolong things as secondary will defInitely be different? Has anyone moved (relatively) locally and changed/not changed schools?

Do it now whilst they are young, as its a far easier adjustment with friends than waiting u til they are older - i moved schools a lot so this is based on experience .

You can’t rent forever. I would do it. How old are you and DH?

To be honest, I was sentimental about the dcs moving away from nursery friends etc.

However they’ve made new friends, they hardly remember their nursery lot. They grow up so much and are so good at making new friends it really wasn’t an issue.

Now we have a lovely house, lovely countryside and a nice group of friends.

We’re late 30s. That’s our thought exactly Inclemental! However nice our area is we can’t really ‘settle down’ here/ put down roots for the long term. I think I am kind of mourning that, but the move will definitely have upsides (likely bigger house/garden).