To want another baby already

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I have DS who is 2 and an 11 week old DD. DS was a difficult baby so although we wanted a second, there was no rush and I was content with being a single child family.

However as soon as DD arrived I’ve felt a huge maternal urge for another already! She is such an easy baby and I can’t describe the overwhelming love I have for her.

I’m already getting upset about her growing up and not being a baby anymore and I’m sure my feelings are nature trying to make me keep reproducing when really I know 2 is enough.

Anyone else felt like this so soon after having a newborn? How do you come to terms with this being your last baby and knowing you won’t have anymore?

I had a difficult pregnancy and financially and practically 2 children are enough for us so a 3rd isn’t really an option.

Ride it out, it will pass.

You can't keep having babies because you want to freeze the children you have in time. It's not fair on them, and you'd be missing out on the joy of your relationships with them as they grow up.

I think it’s quite common to feel that way around around the 3 month mark, I know I did and a lot of friends said the same. Can you shelve it and revisit how you feel when your new baby is a year old? My DD was a very easy newborn but I found the period around 1 really quite tough and honestly I only felt relief that we hadn’t acted on my urge for another one at that time. Maybe it will be similar for you.

Give it time - see how you feel in a year. You aren’t in any hurry so take the time to make the right decision.

Be interested in the ones you have, don't replace them with a new toy just because they aren't the latest model anymore.

It’s the hormones. It will pass. Don’t do anything rash!

I have a 14-week DD and feeling the same! Hoping it will pass because we really can’t afford another either.

Yes I felt like that with all three but it's particularly upsetting with your last because you know you won't be doing it again. It does pass though.

My DC2 is only three weeks old and I can definitely relate to this. We have always been adamant that we only want two for various reasons so I almost feel like I'm mourning the time passing before it's even gone iyswim? It's a strange feeling thinking this will be the last time I have a newborn, I've got two boys so although I'm delighted with them I'll never know what it's like to have a daughter etc etc. I think however you just have to look at the long game, realise it's hormonal, think what you actually want your family to look like in the long run and hopefully the feelings will pass!

Thanks! Hoping it does pass soon!

I certainly don’t want to be pregnant again or go through labour and if I had another like DS I don’t think I would cope work 3! He never slept for the first 18 months.