Recently I’ve been feeling increasingly lonely and unsupported despite having a lot of people around me. I have a fair amount of friends, some family, in laws and acquaintances; yet the only people I feel actually care about me are DH, DSis to an extent and I have a fairly good relationship with DM in terms of how we get on although I have no question whatsoever about whether she cares about me as I know she does.
I am starting to feel really down with others in my life, I’ve experienced similar things with a lot of them. Competitiveness, happy for me as long as I’m not doing better than them, want to talk about themselves but when they ask and I tell them about me there is little interest, try to cut me out of groups slowly but without being upfront about it, even though I offer support to them I get no offers of support when I’m going through hard times which they know about, spend a lot of time bragging and showing off to me, try to extract details of my life without fully telling me theirs, don’t treat me in the generally favourable way I might catch them treating others.
There are more but that’s all I have the energy for right now.
I wanted to know if anybody has felt like this and if so how did they overcome it? One part of me seriously gets that this sounds whiny and pathetic, indeed I would probably be the first to point this out if it was somebody else. The other part of me just wants to get to the bottom of why people treat me like this and get some advice on how to overcome it. I feel down quite often about this and am started to feel like it more and more.