My holiday period is when we go on holiday?

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I teach so school holidays. DH is self employed so has time off at random times or when he wants.
There are five and a half weeks of summer holidays which of course is the actual selling point of teaching.
However DH is away working the first half week. We are then doing a massive shelp staying near family .Whilst lovely seeing my them isn’t what I would call a holiday but DH thinks it is..Unfortunately he is also then booked week 3 and 4 and doesn'%’t ’t think we need another “ holiday”.

AIBU if I just take DC and go alone for a few weeks.? This is my time off so I need to make the most of it.

DS is offering a couple of weekend breaks but these are stressful in term time. AIBU I want to go somewhere on my own or with because it’s the only long holiday opportunity we get?

What are finances like?

Do it! I taught for 35 years and I totally get where you are coming from. My DP realised fairly quickly (after a disastrous start) that even booking a restful holiday in weeks 1,2 and the final week of the long break was a waste because I was so stressed- either wound up so couldn’t really relax or winding up and worrying about the prep for the next term.
Staying with relatives isn’t a real break. It’s often enjoyable but it’s not a holiday.
Weekends away are such hard work- when do you manage to do the week end prep and marking? Take it with and try to do your 8 hours in the B and B or start once you get home and work through the night having stressed about it all weekend?
You deserve a proper break. Book it and go. Maybe find a warm beach resort with children’s activities laid on so you and they can chill properly.
Good luck xx

Of course go on holiday with your dc. Assuming finances allow it.

Absolutely!! I have and still do

Don't teachers ever proofread what they write nowadays? There are so many grammatical mistakes in your post!

Can’t make head nor tail of this?

Such a rash of poorly written posts, ostensibly by teachers, on MN lately.

Clearly this one is in need of a much deserved holiday

30 kids day in day out? You write a post after a yes rod that and see how well you do!

How’s the report wrong going? End or term stats done? School trips and sports day organised? Don’t forget you still have move up days and lost property to sort, once youve ironed out friendship issues and parental problems.

Let's turn this into teacher bashing, shall we?
OP - go to bed.
Yes, absolutely take your DC away. You'll have a great time, and your DH will realise he's missed out, and come with you next time!

Absolutely take your dc on holiday! Tell your dh he’s lucky to be so well rested but he didn’t listen to you when you told him you aren’t, you need a break and you’ve booked it.

Go for it! Some of my best memories are of the holidays that I've taken with my two girls. We've been to Barcelona, Madrid, Munich, Berlin, Amsterdam, Iceland, Budapest and Crete by ourselves.

My dh would always come with us on a big two week family holiday, but then wanted to use his other 4 weeks on his personal hobby that none of us were involved in.

Would he consider a week with your family equivalent to a nice week away on holiday?”

Is there something else you would like to do in that week he is with his parents - even if having long lie ins at home - that you could say ‘what I really need to do at the start of the holidays is just chill so you and the dc go to see your family and I will go to Rome/stay at home and sleep/whatever for the first few days to make it a bit of a proper holiday for me and (if you’re feeling generous!) I will join you at the PIL for the last couple of days.

Not quite what you had in mind but at least would get you out of a non-holiday with his family!

yanbu
visiting family is nice but it's hard work and doesn't feel like a holiday for me.
just go!

I was very lucky and fortunate in having grandparents who were a distance away (in the UK) and could visit them for a few days. Whilst these were holidays, this did not take the place of a week away somewhere else.

So I think the OP is not unreasonable.