To ask you to help me decide whether to have a second child?

[WhereStarsGoBlue]

The decision has sort of been made as I got my coil out this week but...

I'm 33 and my DS is 4.3. Husband 37. We wouldn't have waiting this long to have another child but life got in the way - we moved country etc.

Our situation is now that for the first time we own our own home - just a wee 3 bed terrace - and have enough money though my husband's job is freelance so precarious. I don't earn great money but have just been promoted and we're ok.

Our DS is lovely but I'm feeling quite wobbly about having such a large age gap. Will they have anything in common when one is 5 and one is a baby? Will we be able to do things a family?

And I worry about going back to the beginning when things are so settled and lovely now. DS is flourishing, we all get enough sleep, holidays are easy. The thought of going back to the start exhausts me.

But I never pictured having DS as an only and we both come from big families. I just wish we'd had another child sooner.

I sort of have no gut instinct here! DH v keen on number 2. He was a SAHD to DS while I worked full time and I don't want to do that again, I felt like I'd missed a lot.

and the problem is that it is both, it's amazing and terrible at times, it isn't all one constant feeling. Good luck with what you decide.

I am currently 35 weeks with no.2 and my dd will turn 5 just after he is born. I was like you I couldn't decide whether it was a good idea as life is so settled and easy now dd is older! Im massively scared of going back to the beggining again and the upheavel it will cause my dd. I am also so so excited to meet this new baby and have loved preparing for a newborn again, I already feel I have a bond with him so have definitely made the right decision. My dd is also excited but did say she was sad it wouldn't just be the 3 of us anymore! Im glad she is at an age that she can discuss her feelings with me hopefully that will make the transition easier for her. I think the age gap will be a great thing and purposely planned it for a 5 year gap! Good Luck whatever you decide...