To wish my 'to do' list finally became a 'done list?

[Asitgoes]

Had a few days off and failed to achieve virtually anything on my list.
Does anyone ever feel they've done it?
I mean the de-cluttering, sorting out domestic admin, the million jobs which need doing in my scruffy ( but lovely) victorian house and garden etc
I know it's about the journey not the destination but quite frankly the journey is getting tedious and I can't ever imagine an end point.
Do I just accept things won't ever been 'done' and make peace with that or kick myself up the arse? The 'just do it' feels impossible.
For context I'm a LP with no financial input (ever) from ex ( he sees DC for a few hrs/week). I do work P/T so theoretically do have some 'spare' time, but find the emotional load (& extremely stressful job - I know MNers hate that phrase, but it really is ) draining.
Anyone succeed where I have failed?

Pick one thing only and have a due date for it. Dont give up just move the goal posts!!

For the bigger decluttering type jobs I think the trick is to know that you’ll never get through the whole list but to treat completing each item as a mini victory. I then look back every month or so and reflect on progress and try to feel happy that I’m at least moving in the right direction.

For day to day jobs I do similar but try to make sure certain things are done each day like making my bed and tidying the kitchen, which at least means I don’t feel like a total failure.

I have and idea in my head what needs to be done. When I do it I write it on a things that have been done list. More gets done than ticking off a things to do list.

Like the idea of flipping things and writing a done list
Also, definitely moving the goal posts ( to 'maybe never' )

I heard some really good advice the other day that went along the lines of:
Just do the prep work for something on your to do list. Eg, get out all of your cleaning stuff and the black bags or the boxes you’d use for decluttering.

By the time you’ve done the prep work you’re more likely to think that it’s worth just doing it - most of the hard work is just getting started! I’ve been implementing this more and more recently, and surprised myself by how well it works!

Before I go to bed I mentally tot up my Done List and give myself a pat on the back. It is much more motivating than compiling a To Do for the following day.

I've started tackling one small job every few days - much more rewarding. So instead of "I will tidy the house" and getting everything a bit better but none of it great, or "I will declutter the whole bedroom" which is just daunting and so I never start, I decide "today I will clear that pile of stuff off the top of that one bookcase in the hallway". It's a small job that is achievable in, say, 15 min, and then having one completely nice clear clean spot feels so dwarfing. Much better psychologically to get rid of one complete pile of clutter than reduce every pile of clutter by 10%.

But basically, yes, I think you have to accept that there is no such thing as ever having finished your To Do List. Life just isn't like that.

Rewarding - not dwarfing. Autocorrect fail!