To expect grandma to know how old her granddaughter is ?

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Long history with MIL who has managed to upset pretty much everyone she comes into contact with, so everything she does is intensified. One of them is that she doesn't give enough attention to her grandchildren, more into everyone elses kids.

MIL got a card for her grandaughter happy 5th birthday, shame she was only 4 !!

I mean is this a common thing for other people.?

At least she got a card.
Neither of my children have ever had a card from my FIL and his wife.

sorry if not clear, its not my dd it was sent to my neice and my sil is upset about it (again long history)

My in laws are shite too

I used to get really angry and upset but have learned to not give a toss.My 2 ds's think/know they are twats now as they are nearly 16 and 12.My dd's are still too little to know or understand but i'll know this time not to be mad at them when they deliberatly(sp) come when they know we are out so they can put birthday cards through the door for my lovely children.

My mil did actually give ds2 a card for a 7yr old when he was in fact 8 but then he aslo thought she was his auntie as the visits are so infrequent lol.

Tell your sil to let it go,eventually her dc will know the gp's are useless and not worth the effort.

Yes it's common.

lol just rea dthe op. my sil did this once with ds. she got confused at where he fited in with her sons. by db and df always forget their ages. I get asked near their birthdays. Have to say ds has never cared.

oh blimey - if my dad STILL struggles to remember when my and my brothers birthdays are (hejust about knows I'm March and DB May - but gets the dates (14 and 7th) the wrong way round I think grandparents are definitely allowed to.

my lovely SIL has on 2 occasions sent the wrong age card for DS1 and DS2 . Doesn't bother me a bit.

Can't remember my own age let alone anyone else's - maybe you can set up a reminder system for all the grandkids?