I have 3dc including dts who are two and whose father is the ex in question. Our short lived relationship was awful, massive amount of gaslighting, aggression and lies. He is the sort of person who thinks the world owes him a favour.
He goes from one job to another, in the last 2/3 years he has had in excess of 10 jobs, out of work for a few weeks/month at a time and always agency work. He doesn't turn up, or frequently calls in sick and eventually loses the job. I'm pissed off with his attitude towards work but also the fact that because of this the CMS can't calculate an amount beyond £7 a week (for TWO children!) They can review but only if I call and tell them he is working - I don't ever know when that is and what's the point because it will only be for a few weeks anyway! Added to that I can't rely on him to have the kids while I work so I'm paying £££ on nursery fees.
Why the fuck is he allowed to get away with this? I know there's nothing I can do about it but what I do need is help to get over it. I'm seething with anger and hate and I don't want to feel that anymore.