Broken Court Order

[Victoriafl]

We have a very specific court order preventing my DS father contacting him. He was abusive to him and the court agreed Con tact wasn’t in the DS interests.
He has sent a birthday card to him which will upset him if passed on.
AIBU in feeling deceitful by withholding the card?
What would the court do? Is it a police matter? Please help x

If you know giving your DS the card would upset him and his Father has a Court Order legally telling him he is NOT to contact him, then of course you should withhold it, and don't feel a moment of guilt over it!

I would also report it to the Police on 101, just so that they have a record that he's broken the Court Order, in case it ever goes back to court or if he tries to contact either of you again, then you can prove a pattern of behaviour.

Good for you for doing everything you can to keep your DS safe

Your court order would state written contact or birthday cards if they were permitted.
Either destroy it or keep it until your DC is an adult, whatever you feel is best.
I doubt there is much the court could do, as it was likely you would intercept it anyway, therefore it was more trying his luck then attempting to cause harm or distress.
Having it logged by the police is sensible.

Report it in case there are further attempts, it paints s full picture. Is there a restraining order in place? If so breach of an RO is an offence

No contact is no contact. Written contact is a thing and would have been included if appropriate so he is in breach. Personally I would want this logged.

I would keep it in case years down the track your son chooses to make contact and your ex tries to do the "I sent cards but your horrible mother never gave them to you" number.