DH moans about having to get up at 6.30 despite me doing all the early shifts

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We have two small kids, and the baby gets up most days at 5, sometimes earlier

I do ALL of these early get ups as I can get by on less sleep, and usually wake up then anyway due to being trained to wake up by kids!

Two days a week (!) my DH has to get up at 6.30 to take over as I go to work then. He often grumbles about it how tired he is and doesn't like to have to get up etc etc

I pointed out (and have done before) that this is a bit annoying to hear when firstly, I'm not going to work for fun, and secondly, im tired too

He thinks I'm out of order for not letting him grumble away

Who is being aibu?!

Should also say, another reason I do the get ups is cos otherwise he's in a fowl mood if has to get up early!

Just tell him you will swap

For a start I think you're being a mug for doing all the early mornings. It's always been 50/50 in our house.

He doesn't really have a right to moan .....he's just being a patent.

He is. I hate moaning about non-issues. Surely he should get up 50% of the time at 5am so you’re doing him a big favour but he doesn’t seem to realise that. I would remind him and / or get him to do his favour share

Fowl mood 😁🐔🐔🐔

I don't mind doing it as I'm an early riser altho this is of course a lot out of habit

But think he can be a bit of a prick about it in this way!

Haha zippy, whoops

Tell him he's right, getting up at 6.30am is hard. But from now on, if he does all the 5am shifts then the 6.30am wake up will feel like a lie-in.

You've done your turn, give him a few weeks of doing all the morning wake ups and then see if he wants to move it to 50/50 without the moaning.

Where are all these useless men coming from.

My dh is at work for 6am most mornings. Sometimes he starts early and his alarm goes off at 4am to start at 5am. Most ppl with 'normal' jobs will get up at 6:30 to do the routine (showers,breakfast, school run,commute to work etc)

I've told him he's doing the earlies tomorrow. I'll have a lie in until 6 (haven't slept that late in ages!)

Let the prat grumble but tell him he does it away from you and to come back when he's grown up. Seems you have an extra baby. Tell him no sex as he's clearly in need of sleep.

Don't do the earlies to stop his bad mood. What an idiot. That's giving in to bullies territory.