'Birthday week/month' - is this the ultimate in CFery?

[SisyphusHadItEasy]

I have several friends who I follow on FB (and we are friends in the real world, too).

These are grown adults(mostly women, but not all) who are in their 40s/50s, so definitely not youngsters any more.

On the first day of the month their birthdays fall, it begins. Posts about "birthday month", fancy trips, purchases, a shit ton of "me, me".

I know that the first solution is delete FB, but I associate with them in person.

So, is it ridiculous, or am I just a grumpy fart?

Why does it bother you? If it does, just unfollow them. They don't need to know.

That's ridiculous. You get a day for your birthday not a week or a month! Although I am quite grumpy as I hate the showing off about material stuff posts on FB. I'm lucky enough to have plenty of money but it just seems so unnecessary when people post pictures of all their birthday presents in a big heap.

I'm fucking miserable 11 months out of the year, so yeah, I'm gonna have a birthday month- especially where I pull my head out of my own arse and actually go hang out with people I enjoy, and just hope I can at least have a nice time. Last year I ditched my own birthday party so maybe I'll even have two months. There are a lot worse things in this world to deal with in 2019.

I don't know what to tell you, otherwise. Only you know if you are a grumpy fart.

Nothing wrong with having a birthday month, or birthday quarter or to consider the entire year your birthday but you probably don't need to announce it all over social media the entire time. Does come across as a bit me me me I agree OP.

I have birthday month, birthday week and birthday Boxing Day! I don't actually get presents or treat myself during any of this time, but I use it as an excuse to not take out the bin, or to have an extra biscuit for example. It's fun (also means DH never forgets to buy me a present for my actual birthday). I don't think I have posted about it on FB though as I am aware that it is ridiculous and skipping my turn at doing the dishes isn't really worth bragging about.

I turn off my FB comments every year for my birthday because the people who actually know my birthday and really do care about it will know how to contact me.

It's just a fun way to treat myself like I actually value myself as a human being in the summer (it's coming up)

I'm with you OP - it's all me, me and more me.

I feel the same way about this as I used to feel about Halloween.

Basically life can be unkind, dreary, and miserable, so anything that people to do to cheer themselves up - as long as they are not hurting anyone else - is fine by me.

"OMG it's my birthday year"

I think the first solution is just unfollow that person.

i would rather assume it's a stealth boast about how much money they have to spend treating themselves because they're soooo special

always best to assume.

these posts dont bother me but just make me cringe. totally weird.

... and I find the duller your life is, the more meaning you give it on FB with these sort of updates.

I'm with you OP - it's birth day. Clue is in the name!

I agree OP - extended birthday celebrations like this seem extraordinarily immature and self-absorbed. Also, it wasn’t until I started reading Mumsnet that I discovered there is something called a ‘milestone birthday’ which obliges everyone to dance in craven and abject attendance around the one who has it. It’s all so babyish.

I have a birthday month!!

I am not on Social Media though.

I couldn't give a shit if other people "object"

why not?

My main birthday present is usually a holiday, so I do drag it for a good couple of weeks not including the prep, and even longer if I throw a party as well!

It's nothing really serious, and posts on social media are to take with a massive pinch of salt anyway.

Im 40 this year so I'm having a birthday year. I'm not hurting anyone so I don't get what's the problem?

My partner is also 40 as are friends. Lots of people having celebrations. I've had 2 and a mini break. I also have a big holiday to come later in the year. I have things planned for my partner too. We've had a spendy couple of years on our home so time for us.

I work within healthcare. Lots of people don't reach their birthdays so why can't we celebrate that we achieved that? Life is short do what makes you happy.

On the one hand its a birthday....on the other I have christmas lights up all year because they make me smile!

I joke about extending my birthday, for example if I'm meeting up with a friend for lunch or drinks a few days later or so, but it is very obviously meant as a joke.

I don't really mind people doing whatever they need to on their own FB feed, so long as they're not being mean to other people in the process. I do tend to mostly only have people I actually like as my FB friends though, so even if they're posting stuff I wouldn't post myself, I leave them to it.

I only ever joke about this in person, and only to my immediate family. A few family members have birthdays around my birthday, including DD and DM bad planning! so quite often my birthday isn't actually celebrated until a few days/a week later - damn right I milk it for all I'm worth don't take out the bins that week!
No gifts, over and above what I would receive anyway, so nah, no boasts on FB. I'd see that as being a bit of an arse.

I turn off my FB comments every year for my birthday because the people who actually know my birthday and really do care about it will know how to contact me
So you like to remove the easy way to do that, do you tear? You don’t remove your birthday itself, so everybody knows it’s your birthday, just stop them commenting ‘happy birthday’?
I really like Facebook birthday messages - it’s easy for everyone, nobody needs to remember as they get reminded, and I get cheery messages from my friends!

Yep, 50 this year and have had only one birthday "party" since I was about 12. This will be the first round birthday since divorcing and living alone for the first time with no kids. My mum gave me some cash in advance, and I've booked a trip in August. My actual birthday is in July. What a cheeky fucker I am for saying that a trip a whole month later is my birthday treat. However can I live with myself. If by any unlikely chance you know me, feel free to shame me to my face.

We are in Canada, one individual has had trips to Paris, London, Amsterdam and Disney world in 2019. Now she is posting things like "you HAVE to do so-and-so" for me because it is my birthday month. I would definitely unfollow her on FB, but I still have to hear it face to face.