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New Pregnancy after Stillbirth.

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ShanRock1999 · 04/06/2019 10:21

Hi I’m new to this, I have been reading other people’s posts and there’s some of them I can relate to, and really seek for some advice. In September 2018, I had a stillborn due to having the chord rapped around her neck 4 times and around her arm 2 times, I was 19 at the time, and I was told that my chord was longer than average, after this traumatic birth I then had a haemorrhage shortly afterwards and was in Hospital for a week through being anaemic. Since I have had no appointments with consultants that I was promised BTW (by the way). To sit with them and discuss how they can prevent this from recurring next time.

During this time, I have now been pregnant again I am now 19 weeks and 3 days and I’m confused to what is going on? I was prescribed 75mg Aspirin at 12 weeks and told to take 2 a day up until 36 weeks, but I have been googling, and apparently it’s telling me that it can cause placental abruption, that it’s not usually recommended during pregnancy and that it could cause haemorrhages. I’m really scared, and on top of that I was told I’d be having regular growths scans and been given letters for the upcoming growth scans in the months and the scans I will be having are every month when I was told they where every 3 weeks. A lot of people are telling me their having scans weekly or every 2 weeks and when I confront my midwife on this I’m being told to speak with the consultant?

Can anyone help me please and give me some advice on what to do? And weather the Aspirin is safe to take please?

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ShanRock1999 · 04/06/2019 16:21

Hi mamamiass,

I don’t know what truly went on with my daughter all’s I was told when I gave birth to her was that there was no need for a postponement as it was clear to tell what had happened to her, that the chord has rapped around her neck 4 times and around her arm 2 times, and that the chord was longer than average. For Aspirin I’ve not been told why I am taking it on a daily basis only it’s because of me smoking an E-cigarette which I was told by a smoking nurse it was fine to smoke.

Many Thanks 💕

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ShanRock1999 · 04/06/2019 16:25

Hi mamamiass,

I have read what you have sent me and I was not told this, I’ve been told of Midwifes and smoking nurses that it’s safe to smoke during my pregnancy. Would that be the cause of My daughters chord being longer than average? Because if so I’m currently using it and only just found out of the information you’ve given me that it’s not safe.

Many Thanks 💕

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ShanRock1999 · 04/06/2019 16:29

Hi isseywithcats,

Thank You for you’re advice and support I really do appreciate it.

Many Thanks 💕

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mamamiass · 04/06/2019 17:03

@ShanRock1999

The animal studies suggest that nicotine has adverse effects on pregnancy. www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/m/pubmed/30265741/

www.nhs.uk/news/pregnancy-and-child/vaping-and-using-nicotine-patches-pregnancy-linked-cot-death/

I am sorry but stating that nicotine is safe in pregnancy is misinformation. There is no study on pregnant woman and therefore it is not concluded safe. I can't say if it causes problems described in your first pregnancy.

ShanRock1999 · 04/06/2019 19:20

Hi Mamamiass,

I will be speaking will my consultant on the 17th and make sure I let him know on the E-Cig and what he can do to help me to get off it, as reading up on the information has feared me to be smoking an e-cigarette. Thank You for you’re help on advice and information.

Many Thanks 💕

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Bluebelltulip · 04/06/2019 21:22

I would check on your hospitals website about how to contact PALS. PM can only be sent by the Mumsnet website not the app if you are using that. If you click on the 'person' icon in the top right hand corner then click on inbox you can send personal messages.

ShanRock1999 · 05/06/2019 10:53

Hi BlueBelltulip,

I have contacted my local PALS and I have discussed my concerns about my care and after care when I had my daughter. And their looking into it for me.

Many Thanks 💕

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Bluebelltulip · 05/06/2019 10:54

That's great I hope they get some answers for you.

ShanRock1999 · 09/06/2019 14:15

Hi BlueBelltulip,

Thank You.

Many Thanks 💕

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Bluebelltulip · 10/06/2019 15:27

There is also now a pregnancy after loss thread which you may find useful it's called 'The Graduates of TTC after pregnancy loss' it's in the pregnancy section.

ShanRock1999 · 10/06/2019 20:15

Hi BlueBelltulip,

I will have a look now, Thank You.

Many Thanks 💕

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Walkthroughthefire · 10/06/2019 20:25

Hi Shanrock,

I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter Lizzie. Have you been in touch with sands? They were a lifeline for us when our daughter was stillborn and then through my 2 subsequent pregnancies.
It's a really terrifying time and being able to speak to others who understood was so helpful

ShanRock1999 · 12/06/2019 01:07

Hi Walkthroughthefire,

I did contact Sands via E-mail and they didn’t bother contacting me back when I expressed my concerns. It is a really terrifying time and I’m terrified it’s affecting my relationship through stress and worry I’m going through, talking to their people that have been through a similar situation as I have would help loads, but when I try and contact people they don’t contact me back.

Many Thanks 💕

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