Did anyone else freak out before turning 35?!

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Hi,

Just looking for a bit of reassurance really. I'm turning 35 soon and the last month or so i seem to be really freaking out. I never freaked out about turning 30 so not sure why i'm freaking out now, there just seems to be a lot of social pressure to have everything sorted at this age!

I live with my partner and his two boys, we have been together four and a half years, i have a great relationship with the children, pretty sure i don't want my own children. Have never seen myself having biological children but always imagined i'd have involvement with children in someway, i always fancied the auntie/godmother role rather than mum! Recently though the never ending list of people saying gosh 35 better get a move on and have your 'own', i explain that isnt really my plan, and they follow with 'really, you will really regret that' has suddenly got me feeling quite anxious and overthinking everything, its a horrible feeling.
Also been wondering about my job and if its a time for a change.
Is it time to get a pet etc.
My mind just seems to be in overdrive.

Has anyone else experienced this?! Is it normal?!

Any advice gratefully received :-)

Very true @Happyspud!

Aaah OP I'm in a similar boat. 35 soon and questioning all my life choices! For me I've just been dumped (again) so panicking about it being too late to settle down. I too have always been pretty sure I don't want kids but now doubting myself and waiting for that mythical regret to start kicking in!

Late 30s does seem so different to early 30s, for some reason, doesn't it? I feel like I'm still living all irresponsibly and without direction while everyone else is so sorted and settled. Arg! So I don't have much advice other than to say you're definitely not alone!!

Im glad Im not the only one feelingsareweird! Late 30s does seem really different to early 30s. I do think we are really lucky to have a lot more options than what previous generations had but with options comes choices and I’m never great at making decisions!
I think so many people still expect women to want to have biological children they still really question people who say they don’t and that is bound to make people question things. Also you never know what hormones are up to at this age either! I’ve never seen myself having biological children so always thought if i ever changed my mind and really wanted to be a parent then fostering or adopting or working with children would be an option and there’s still many years for that! It’s hard though isn’t it.