Ok feel I need to preface this with some history. My husband had a 2 month affair which I found out about on Christmas eve. He basically had his secret little housecalls to her after being at the pub and not coming home till 2/3am and sometimes not coming home at all.
One of the ground rules I put in place was that I expected him home at the absolute latest on the last bus home from the pub. Doesn't get in till midnight. Another condition was that i expected him to let me know where he was and to keep me updated.
Last night I had to text him at 11:45pm to ask if he was getting a taxi home as the last bus had already been and gone. He phoned me to say yes he would have to get a taxi and that he had only just left the pub and was needing to pick up stuff from his dads (where he is still currently staying)
AIBU to expect him to appreciate the gift I've given him of trying to forgive the affair, and actually make an effort to be responsible? It wouldn't have been hard to leave the pub in time to get his stuff from his dads and still made the bus in time, but he hadn't even left the pub by the time the last bus went past my house!
He said he was having too good a night to leave. I'm seriously thinking he has a major drinking problem or he is just seriously selfish as nothing will ever come in front of him having a good time at the pub! I'm honestly so angry that he is throwing a second chance away all to spend more time in the pub!
I've made it clear I'd rather he left than stay and string me along. I just don5 understand why he insists on still hurting me. I've given him until end of June to snap out of this or it's done, but at this point I don't know if I can do another month of complete crap from him. Me and the kids seem second best to the pub!