Would you take offence if we were your neighbours?

[Greggers2017]

We have a Fence in our garden that has gaps between the slats, next doors children aged 5 and 6 are always at the fence whenever we are in the garden constantly trying to talk to us. What you doing? What you doing now? What you doing that for? Etc. It's ok for a short while but it gets irritating, especially when you're trying to relax and read. It also annoys my son who had high functioning autism that much that he will not go in the garden if they are there.
Would we be Unfair to put bamboo screening up along our fence to make it more private? And would you take offence if you were our neighbour?

Iv put bamboo screening up, great for privacy and it looks good, no more unsightly fence panels

Exactly the same in our garden. We had short concrete posts with short panels. They fell to bits so i dropped tall panels in them and boarded up the gaps.

I wouldn’t give a rollicking bollox if they were offended or not!

Get the bamboo up sharpish.

It seems a good idea . You have every right to relax in your own garden..
Poor kids on their own though.

I live next to a family of 4 boys. There is a 6 foot fence. Unfortunately their huge trampoline is right next to it. The youngest boy is always jumping up and down and talking to me.

I actually don't mind, he's quite sweet. But I do just have a quick chat and then don't engage any further. I'm quite clear "lovely talking to you but I'm wanting some quiet time now, bye" or similar.

I have a boy the same age who won't speak to anyone other than family and friends, so he's no bother to neighbours.

Balls OTOH. FML. so there are 4 boys-worth of footballs on one side, my own boy's footballs and then at the back we have 2 more children.

All I do is pick up frigging balls!!!!! Drives me crazy.

YANBU. If I saw my kids doing that I'd allow a quick hello then tell them to leave the poor neighbours alone. Anyone would find that intrusive and irritating.

Do it! Enjoy your summer!

fraxion your nosy neighbour, i'm speechless, how dare you spoil your neighbours enjoyment of your garden ??

Yes it was outrageous, the fencing chap put her in her place. She was a right nosey old bat. It was an absolute blessing she stopped speaking to us.

Of course not. I'd take a gate, instead.
Funny half hour sorry.

I have very nosey kids who badger neighbours no matter how many times I call them away. I'd be more than happy for you to screen the fence

They also have a habit of throwing balls over for us to throw back.

How unfortunate that they landed on a sharp, puncturing object before being thrown back. Or that you didn’t see them while clearing up and they accidentally got put in the bin.

My NDN has planted bamboo and it's forever coming up in my garden and is now so thick it's taking the sun from my already shady garden. Why don't you just add extra slats so the gaps are covered.

I wouldn't ever plant bamboo again, took us years to get rid of it, we burnt it in the end, after it raised half our patio.
It grows like wildfire but if you are regular gardeners shouldn't be a problem.
You will need to be prepared to tend their side when it grows through though.

Def NBU, however do be careful planting bamboo - it can be nasty stuff, sharp under foot and is very invasive/difficult to keep under control or get rid of. Maybe just a different kind of hedging plant?

Send the balls back with knife slashes in them..

I don't think OP is planning to plant bamboo, just put up some bamboo screening like this stuff.

I don’t think the OP is talking about planting bamboo - think she means the ready made screens that come in a roll.

Aw, apologies. I thought she meant growing the stuff.

Have you actually spoken to the neighbours to explain your circumstances regarding your son etc -they may be nice and have a word with their kids, or they may be awful - either way stick the fence up but if they are nice they'll understand

Fence, trees, burst balls.

Ask your landlord who is responsible for the fence, it should say on the Title Deeds. If it is your landlord and money isn't a problem, ask him if he would mind you replacing it if he's not willing to do it. If the neighbours are responsible then I would put some bamboo screening up.

Ah sorry, I thought planting too! Roll of screen would certainly sort it!

Noooo! definitely not planting bamboo. The other side have that and the roots are lifting our AstroTurf. Nightmare stuff.
I think the screening would be the best solution.