Hello, I’m new to here and basically need some unbiased advice. So 15 months ago I gave birth to my little boy who was born at 25 weeks (micro preemie) it was the hardest thing I’ve ever had to do in my life and I was only 19 years old at the time. My partner and I have almost been together now 6 years but his mum has always caused us issues in our relationship ! When I was pregnant with my lb she insisted on coming to scans and demanded to be at the birth but I just didn’t feel comfortable with that as I have never been close with her. When my pre term labour came on she wanted to be there but I said no as I didn’t know what was going to happen just wanted her to leave me alone. We spent 4 months in NICU and understandably I was so protective of who could visit my baby due to germs and on many occasions she threatened to beat me up and beat the nurses up and get through to see him regardless of what I said. In the end I had to put a password protect on my baby via telephone and entrance to the unit without my consent. Eventually I made up with her and forgave her for my partners sake and ever since we’ve left the hospital I’ve had nothing but bother with her, she gets mad at me because I do a lot with my mum and am close with her but she insists I go to her house the same amount of time - again I’m only civil with her for my partners sake and she has been seeing my lb every week but I don’t feel like it’s down to me to go there all the time with our little one. She doesn’t make much effort with us she excepts us to message her and arrange times to see her and she never asks how I am or how my little boy is. I recently went 5 weeks without hearing from her and I thought god I’ve done something wrong again but she finally messaged me and said she had been ill. (I felt she could’ve advise of that during the period I hadn’t heard from her) I’ve since found out she has told my partner that she thinks I’m unapproachable and that the reason she isn’t involved in his life is because of me and because I’m always busy which was a shock to me as I always ensure she sees him once a week before this row yet again. I’m now pregnant with our next little one and I have been advised that I shouldn’t have any stress in this pregnancy as the last one being premature may have been linked to stress. So I made the decision and said to my partner I won’t be speaking with her throughout this pregnancy as I am not having the stress from her or rows throughout as I know there will be many. He thinks I’m being immature and stupid and has said to me he will not speak to me unless I speak to her but I can’t help but think I just want a healthy baby and she has caused me stress non stop since the pregnancy with my last and is continuing to do so and for the health of me and my baby I feel I should cut ties with her for the foreseeable? Am I being unreasonable for this considering the background (I know it’s a long one but I’ve tried to make it as brief as possible) xx