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WIBU to kick him out of bed

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freethetoes · 03/06/2019 15:37

Not that any tabloid will pick this up, but just in case, all tabloids are wank.

So this morning I woke up with DS for school. Didn’t wake DH up as it’s not a 2 man job and thought he could have a lie in (trying to be nice!).

Around 30 minutes later I’ve gone back upstairs to grab something and DH is awake, on his phone on YouTube, In my bed. We have separate beds due to a spacing issue and his horrific warthog like snoring. long story, nothing dodgy. I’ve asked DH to go back into his bed as it grosses me out when he sleeps in his bed, his hygiene isn’t up to my standard at all and I really don’t like it.

He says no, my beds comfier. I ask him when did he shower last and his reply was “Thursday”!!!! I then told him that if he was cleaner it wouldn’t be a problem to which he shouted “shut up!”.

I’ve had DH about this many times, it feels like I’m always moaning at him to shower, most of the time he’ll just ignore me. I’ve had enough of it to be honest.

Was I being unreasonable to kick him out of my bed? He’s not depressed. I know sometimes that can be a reason to slack on cleanliness etc, as far as I know it’s jist laziness with him. Really fed up!

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Aquamarine1029 · 03/06/2019 15:38

Why are you married to such a revolting man? Get rid.

IVEgottheDECAF · 03/06/2019 15:39

He sounds lovely. Why are you with him?

Contraceptionismyfriend · 03/06/2019 15:40

I can't understand how you could be attracted or reproduce with that.

freethetoes · 03/06/2019 15:47

He hasn’t always been like this Sad we’ve been together over 10 years, it’s only been the last year roughly that he’s let things get this bad. One of the many times I brought it up with him I did say how unattractive it was, and his response was “I don’t need to be attractive, I’ve already got you”.

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loutyre · 03/06/2019 15:49

My fella doesn't shower either then suggests sex.....no chance! Wash your willy and I might consider it and I wish we had separate beds!

CodenameVillanelle · 03/06/2019 15:52

Ew fuck that's gross. 4 days without washing his arse and balls? Vom.
You don't need to stay with someone just because you've been with them for a long time. He's taking you totally for granted.

Contraceptionismyfriend · 03/06/2019 15:58

If this is new then I might give some leeway then.

Sit him down. Ask why this has happened. Has anything been bothering him? Does he work? Is something causing him a lot of stress?

If he opens up and you discover that somethings not right then you can work together on fixing it.

If however he becomes an arrogant shit you look him in the eye and tell him he needs to pull himself together because he doesn't 'have' you. This is not what you signed up to and pretty soon he will not be your problem.

EKGEMS · 03/06/2019 16:38

My reply to him would've been "Not if you keep up your unreasonable hygiene habits!"

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