AIBU to expect more than anger?

[brokengranny]

Please advise about what you would expect from your DH if you were hurt or upset? Without fail my DH just gets angry and shouts at me and I am just so hurt by this. For example today I banged my head when getting into the car with my DGD in my arms. [Was going to change her nappy]. I misjudged "ducking" and smashed my head on the doorframe - I saw stars and everything went black for a minute. This hurt so much it made me cry and in turn DGD started to cry. DH just stood there and shouted at me then yelled at DGD to be quiet too and made her cry even more. I am so terribly upset by this - it is one thing yelling at me - but DGD? I have no idea how to resolve this - I have told DH that it's one thing to treat me like that but DGD who up until now adores him? He has always been unsympathetic towards me throughout our marriage but I can't cope with it any more and feel so broken. Please advise if you think IABU to expect a few words of sympathy or a hug in such a situation as he makes me feel as if I am being ridiculous by wanting this?

Definitely not unreasonable OP. What a hard, unfeeling person he is. Does he show emotion at anything?

You are not being unreasonable. I'm sorry that you even thought that you were. If someone we love hurts, then we're sorry for their hurt, and want to comfort them.

YANBU to want sympathy, but if you say he is angry without fail, you might be a bit unrealistic.

You know it's him - whether you go with your feelings and make a change is up to you. Maybe seeing him yell at the baby is catalyst enough for you? (I assume he never yelled at his children?)

He’s a nasty nasty man.

No doesn't really show his feelings and is a bit of an introvert. He can be caring in practical ways just hopeless emotionally. I just feel so lonely.

To be honest op. I find it completely unbelievable that your marriage has lasted to the point of Grandchildren.
Has he always been this much of a nasty arsehole.

Wtaf? If I saw a stranger do this then I'd be asking if they needed medical attention - certainly not shouting at them.

He's not nasty normally in fact he's generally quiet and unassuming. It's just in situations where I need comfort that he's like this. I find it quite scary that he can't seem to empathise.

I’d be telling him that whether he feels sympathy or empathy in these situations is immaterial. He’s to train himself to react like a normal person, and offer normal person comfort.

He can enjoy his psychopathic tendencies on his own time.

It has implications for other people in his life, especially the kids.

I think he's escaped from a mental ward

Because what you really need when you're hurt or upset is a good telling off

Sounds horrible OP. Neither you nor DGD deserve that

Regarding you H, what everyone else said.

I’m worried about you hitting your head so hard you saw stars and blacked out for a moment. You really need to get checked out for concussion and get some rest.

Please tell me your husband will not be angry when you do that! Are you still looking after DGD?