To ask for support from him?

[spanielove]

Background, been with DP 2 years this September, we live together and have done for over a year now.

I struggle with anxiety, panic attacks more specifically. I'm having a bad night tonight and getting absolutely no sympathy from my boyfriend.

I'd be the first to comfort him if he had an emergency or was upset/anxious himself so I just can't understand why he always gets angry/loses patience when I'm anxious? I get that it's hard for him as I suffer from anxiety generally so I have panic attacks often, but it's no walk in the park for me either!

It's not just panic attacks though that he's useless with, last year I had a kidney infection and ended up with him having to take me to A&E at 1am (I'd have gone on my own but I can't drive) he was just mad I'd woken him up and the only sympathy I got was when I threw up and the doctor confirmed I was in fact ill, he couldn't seem to take me seriously, just the doctor!

I know it can be hard to live with someone with MH difficulties but it concerns me that he'll be completely useless if we try for a baby in the future.

Otherwise he's great, we get on amazingly, he has a great job (I'm studying), so funny etc.

It can be utterly exhausting to be with someone that has MH issues when you don't really understand the debilitating impact they can have. Some people don't understand how anxiety/ panic attacks can affect people and sort of see things as basic as just wishing you'd get a grip.

Have you sought any help dealing with your anxiety? I say that as it's not right or fair to expect him to constantly be your support if you're not really addressing the underlying issues. All that said, I think if he can't find it in himself to sympathise and be patient with you then perhaps he's not the right guy for you.