to hate when people say "just wait until...x,y,z..."

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I have 2 kids under 3. I'm exhausted. But all anyone says is "just wait until they're teenagers then you'll wish they were young again". Etc. Or "just wait until baby starts walking then you'll be tired".

AIBU to be just be like AGGGGGHHHHH!

Surely it's not all hell from here on? Please?

I was told similar. Hated it. The thing is, different ages, different problems. Sometimes life feels smooth, sometimes not. But unless your dcs will be angelic teenagers (and some are) you are in for bigger issues than imaginable when having toddlers 😀. Try looking at teen threads if you want to look ahead 🤣. Actually I don't recommend that.

I haven't got to the teenager stage yet but the combination of a baby and toddler is definitely the most difficult so far. Once they're both school/nursery age its definitely easier. So even if the teenage years are terrible you'll have a long rest in between!

By the way good luck. It is a cliché, but love gives you strenght to deal with it all ❤️.

My teens are and were angelic

But of boy some of my friends children!!!

But i agree with ‘ticking’ different ages, different problems

I think it’s just generic small talk tbh. They also kinda have a point, you do wind up being all sentimental the older they get. My eldest is nine now and I cried on his birthday (not in front of him obvs). I ended up looking at baby pics thinking ‘how on Earth was this nine years ago?!’. I also kept thinking about lovely memories of him as a baby/toddler and how much he’s changed.

They don’t mean any harm by it, just wanting to make sure you ensure you make the most of them being young. My DGM did tell me before DC1 was born that this won’t last two minutes, they’ll be 45 before you know it with children of their own. She was right really, it has flashed by in no time at all.

Just nod and smile and tune the doomsayers out.
Two under three, sometimes sheer fatigue doesn't cover it.

Well if it provides any comfort, I found parenting really easy from the ages of 4-11. Toddler years and teenage years both challenging, but in different ways. So yes, teenage years are hard, but you should have a good chunk of easier time before it kicks in.