To think FIL should entertain his own guests?

[littlebigfeet]

So, FIL lives alone and we see him regularly as he lives only a short drive away. Every so often he has an old work colleague over for the weekend (they worked together for years and are close friends but colleague lives an hour away).

Anyway last time this guy was visiting, FIL turned up to visit with him in tow. We made them welcome but were a bit taken aback as we don't know this bloke at all. Anyway he's here again for the weekend and FIL announced in the week that they "will pop round" to see us again as it kept his mate occupied. We didn't say yes or no, just that we would let him know if we were free (as it happens we aren't) but is it mean not to want him bringing his pal round? Nothing against him but he's not our friend to entertain!

YANBU
Id say "no we might be out"
And if he pushes you, say, no th!nk you. No thank you.

I dunno, if his friend is nice then why not entertain him too? Doesn't hurt you

Is it “popping round” or are you being expected to cater for them? So, are they popping round at mealtimes?

It wouldn't bother me to have his friend round for a bit. He might be proud of his family and want to introduce his friend to you guys,

I feel sorry for him, he obviously can't think of anything to do with his mate, maybe have a look at what's going on locally and make a few suggestions of what else they could do?

Does he mean come round for an hour or so just for a cup of tea/coffee? Or will they descend for the day and have you running around them?

If it is the latter then they are taking the piss and I would say no. If the former then I might be OK with it, if reluctant. You are busy though, so problem solved.

Just say you are busy each time. They will hopefully get the message.

I would be happy to accommodate his friend for a few hours, life is so short and kindness makes it so much nicer.

Just head off and do your own stuff and leave your Dh to entertain them. Or Dh could take them out for a drive/lunch.

When you say entertain his friend do you mean provide a full day of meals and plan outings or is he just going to pop in for a cup of tea? The former would be an imposition the latter surely isn't too much to ask?

He just means pop round for an hour/cup of tea. As I said, I'm slightly uncomfortable but not sure if it's mean to say no!

Just for an hour
Yabu

I think you're being a little bit mean sorry. FIL is obviously keen to include you perhaps because he's proud of his family. Its not going to kill you having a cuppa or two

Ok fair enough. I'll have them round next time and bake a cake 😊

If he only wants to call in for a cup of tea for an hour it really is quite unkind not to try to accommodate that.

DMIL lives alone. She sometimes has friends to stay. We try to ensure we are around for a couple of hours so she can bring them over to us (usually for afternoon tea). She is proud of us (DH, me and our 3 children) and likes to introduce her friends to us.

You haven’t said why it makes you uncomfortable. YABU on the present information. Surely it is just a simple kindness?

Cross post. Good on you!

I don't think you are being unreasonable.

Father in law is old enough to entertain his own friends. As a one-off I wouldn't mind, but I would not want it to become a regular event.

YABU - unless there's something awful about the man it's nice to have a brief visit. It would also be nice to look up ideas of places for FIL to take him too, if he's struggling for ideas.

This really wouldn't bother me. It's nice to be sociable. Definitely bake a cake