AIBU to not know what else I can do? Work related.

[PeopleSkills123]

I have recently started a second job, it's in a medical facility as a HCA.

I should say upfront that I'm a real introvert and I struggle with social stuff like going out to pubs/parties etc but I think in general I'm alright at general chit chat at the school gates etc.

Anyway - I work in a team of 4 people at this new job and I've found 2 of them are really close and will go off together and work around the facility, the other person in about but as a smoker has more frequent but shorter breaks so often I can't find anyone to help with more challenging tasks.
I do always offer my help to people and I have tried to chat to every member of staff there and I get on well with all the people that we care for.

I got called into the manger office yesterday to be told that whilst my work is outstanding my social and staff skill aren't 'gelling' they asked if I was having problems with any of the staff (I said no) they commented that I'm quiet and withdrawn and I am often to be found getting on with challenging tasks when I should ask for help, I did explain that I have found it difficult to locate other members of staff and that when I've asked previously they've told me their too busy, when I've offered my help to them it's been turned down - they're worried I'm not becoming 'part of the team.' They also said there had be talks amongst other staff that I don't seem very happy a lot of the time, I do have resting bitch face but I haven't ever been unhappy at work.
They're quite a lively, bubbly team and I'm not naturally but as said I have tried so hard to join in conversations and 'banter' and start convos about and engage with staff about their interests/lives and the work we're doing.,

It's really upset me tbh, I said I'd work on it but I don't honestly know what else I can do. I was really enjoying the job but now I'm dreading going in for my next shift knowing that the rest of the staff think I'm a miserable cow!

I don't really know what I want out this post tbh - I'm feeling a bit fragile and my good feelings about my new role have vanished.

That sounds tricky. Im not sure what to suggest but thought I would reply to give your post a bump

You poor thing! I'm like you, and it takes awhile for me to integrate into a new group. But it sounds like these people haven't given you any time at all!

Keep being pleasant, make comments about the weather or whatever, and keep working hard.

Bottom line is, they are your colleagues, not your mates. Once you're polite and do your job, that's enough. And they don't sound particularly nice, so screw 'em

Poor you! It’s so unfair they made you feel that way. You sound lovely and as long as you enjoy work and do the job well that’s the important thing!
You should’ve been praised on your work not on being quiet! :(

Not having comments on being quiet that was meant to say

That's terrible. You shouldn't be put under pressure to be extroverted just because others are. Good leadership is understanding that people come with different personalities. Forcing people to change who they are is pushing them to look for another job.

Your work is excellent, that's all that should matter. Time will help with the bonding and interacting. It needs to come naturally. I'm sorry your boss is an idiot.