Whats this called??

[JustmeandtheKIDS2]

When someone has horrendous behaviour but deflects it on to you saying all that the negative things they do, you do?? Its driving me mad but i dont know what its called.

Projection?

Deflection and/or transference

Gas lighting? That’s only one I can think of....

Gaslighting

Any of the above...

What kind of people do this? I dont believe its something i do or anyone else i know, apart from this certain person.

Narcissists tend to do the type of things you describe and gaslighting etc.

A delusional person does this and all the vocabulary offered describes this behaviour pattern.

Sorry StoneofDestiny what do you mean??

Auramigraine This is something i suspect, there is deffo something else going on, the things this person has done have been totally and utterly mad, reallly really of the scale. The problem is hes quite clever so never gets court.

He also re writes a story (if that makes seance) and enjoys the drama and confusion he causes.

Gaslighting. They are cunts of the lowest order. Google it, it'll all make sense x

Pgqio Ha ha iv googled it before and it does sound like him through and through.

A person who is delusional about their own behaviour often projects the 'fault' on to others. They live in an alternative reality projecting their misbehaviour on to others.

StoneofDestiny this is 100% what he does. But he also ties you up in knots and makes you confused, eg hes abusive to me but somehow believes im the abusive one?? Im left thinking am i abusive, when i totally know im not.

It's also whataboutery. Deflecting accusations against them with other ones against you.

Projection and perhaps deflection too.

Narcissists and sociopaths often do this.
But people with other personality disorders may do this too.

It's called being a cunt.

If this is happening to you then you don’t need a diagnosis. You need to get away from them.

Its my children's father, we are divorced and even though i have minimal contact with him, communication is beyond hellish. Hes manipulative, controlling and aggressive. He behaves dreadfully towards me and the children, but will then insist its all me. I just find it really odd.

He would (and has) thought nothing of lieing in court, sending solicitors letters accusing me of things when i can 100% prove i haven't. He has no boundaries what so ever and believes he is better than all authority and of course me. The other thing he does (among lots of other odd stuff) is become obsessed about something really obsessed and then suddenly drop it. He does this a lot with people, one min hes loving his father and hating his mother and then its reversed.

Gaslighting, Deflecting or to make it even easier, being a knob head.

Any advice with dealing with it, iv gone Gray rock for years, makes no bloody difference hes still horrendous.