To think this is rude?

[Buildingwoes]

Trying to get some work done in my house. Contacted a few local tradespeople on the recommendation of friends and acquaintances, and local area FB group. This was on Tuesday.

Of the 6 I contacted only 5 replied (fair enough) and one was booked until August (again fair enough at least he let me know quickly) Of the rest, 3 have been out. 2 of those wouldn't commit to a time and just said 'I'll be round in the afternoon' and ended up turning up when I was out. Luckily another family member was home but the attitude I got from the tradesperson was 'I've come to your house, you should be there' overlooking the fact he'd not given any indication of expected time.

That I felt was a bit unprofessional but what I thought was rude was the person who said 'well you need to rip all that out and start again' and told me the job had been done in poor quality materials, was all shit etc. Except I know it was done with top quality materials by my ExH and that it was all done properly at the time (albeit a decade ago) so Aibu to think this was fucking rude? I object to someone deliberately negging my house when they're expecting to work for me. I've had a similar experience before with others, again not everyone but in each batch of quotes you seem to get one opinionated tosser....

If this has happened to you how do you handle it?

but what if the work previously done by your ExH was shoddy? Would you rather he pretended it was all fine and dandy and then give you a wrong quote?

I don't think it's negging at all, you asked him to look at your house and tell you what needs doing, that's what he did

Thing is I know enough to know it wasn't badly done. And it certainly wasn't done with the wrong or cheap materials like he tried to make out.

Both the others who have come to look at the job made no such comment, one actually said it had clearly all been done properly/ expensively at the time but just not maintained (that is true as due to ExH and I separating and I dont have time or inclination to do maintenance work) but I think it's rude to make unpleasant and untrue comments. I suspect the rude guy didn't realise I knew what had been used/ was around when it was done.

I think it was rude and unecessary. I would liken it to when you go to a new hairdresser and they say "Who cut your hair last time" and look horrified. It puts me right off from the start.

If one is saying work is fine and another is saying you need to rip out and start again then it's not being rude.
It's called trying to get more money off you lol

I would liken it to when you go to a new hairdresser and they say "Who cut your hair last time"

I always want to say you did

How I handle it is I smile and nod and don’t give them the work. I don’t recommend them to people who ask around for tradespeople, either.

I would've asked them to elaborate
I know what you mean about tradesmen though. We have been slowly renovating our house for the last couple of years. Most of the battle is finding tradesmen who can be bothered to respond to messages, turn up, turn up on time, and not try and rip you off. Most appear to not need or want the work.

What's the work? A ten year old bathroom suite requiring maintenance and badly looked after, he might have a point. Is it wise to do work in the immediate area of something that needs sorting out? Might make it look even worse. No need for him to be rude to you about it though.

Unless they are charging you for a quote which round here is unheard of, I think it was rude to say it's ok to come in the afternoon and then not commit to waiting in for him.