Aibu

[Tinydancer08]

My ex has just asked me can he take our children away with his new gf of a couple of months. Aibu for saying no. Its nothing against this women but this is the second women involved with the children in less than a year. And states the same things with each one he loves them there moving in etc.

That's a hard one.
Is he living with her already?
Have they met her yet?
How old are the DC?
When would the holiday be?

No there not living together they've only been together 3 months she met the kids 7 weeks ago and has seen then 4/5 times at the most and he wants to book it for next year. But he's into his 4 relationship in 2 years and is so unpredictable says the same thing about each women he loves them is gonna move in together etc children are 4 and 9

Hang on, how many women?

Is this a woman (1) or more (women)?

Sorry 1 woman grammer police

Love the irony in spelling “grammer police” incorrectly.

Grammar 🤣

Let him book it for next year, they'll be split up by then anyway

Let him book it for next year, they'll be split up by then anyway.

NOOOO, because if he manages to carry on by substituting in who ever he is dating by then, that girlfriend may know them even less.

and if the whole thing ends up cancelled and he is out of pocket for it, I'd bet anything that he will somehow try to short his support money to make up for it. because it was for the kids anyway.

Tell him the children can't travel with him and a partner unless that partner has been around for a year and the children know her quite well and have spent numerous weekends with the two of them and done shorter trips so both the kids and the girlfriend know exactly what they are getting into. , I think that is a very generous offer and likely won't happen for years.

Tell him to ‘do one’
You ^don’t’ know his gf. Your job is to protect your children, not pander to his whims.
He needs to understand his children can not just be subjected to a new gf every few months either, it’s very unsettling for them to have so many people come and go in their life!
He needs to start with spending time with his children, introducing a new gf slowly and then to consider taking his children away for a holiday after they have gotten to know her (well over 12 months into the future)

I wouldn't let him under these circumstances perhaps if he could stay with her for a year or so then a holiday would be reasonable.

Thank you everyone for your advice. Feel like I've already lost with him as he's does as he pleases.