To be irritated/annoyed with NDN

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I’m really not sure if it’s just me being over sensitive to noise but my next door neighbours irritate the hell out of me.
So a bit of background...we live in a small close of seven detached houses, but they are still quite close together.
NDN work all week although husband gets home around 3.30pm.
So weekdays are not too bad except for when he gets home. But EVERY weekend there is non stop noise. He is a diy fanatic and every weekend and he is out on the front drive with his power tools and music blaring out. He is sawing, drilling banging non stop. My car is always covered in sawdust as are my windowsills and front door.
He starts about 8am which normally wakes me up (my bedroom is at the front).
Other neighbours have also mentioned how irritating it is.
I appreciate that diy jobs need to be done but this is literally non stop all weekend, every weekend, especially now the weather is getting better.
It is getting on my nerves so much that I am seriously thinking about moving (to somewhere with no neighbours) as it is affecting my nerves.
AIBU and over sensitive or does anyone agree this is just too much?

No one wants to live next to the sound of constant building site. Every time he leaves a mess, go around and tell him to clear it up.

My husband does a lot of DIY, he cleans up after as he isn't an arse. If he cuts wood there could be a lot of sawdust all over cars and windows.

This would annoy me if it were every weekend. What is he actually doing/making?

That's annoying. YANBU. 8am every Sat/Sunday plus music? Why can't anyone work outside without the music blaring?

I imagine many of the hostile replies are from people as inconsiderate as your neighbour.
Or people who think that neighbours have no right to police what others do with their weekends within reasonable hours and that people whose nerves fall apart over some DIY are likely to be the type who are offended by any neighbourly noise (and the type to exaggerate the scale if it if my relative is anything to go by).

Personally, I think he should really start at 9am not 8.

We rarely make noise in our garden except for the afternoons where we are doing gardening. With our windows open we can hear people doing DIY, using garden tools, putting up a bouncy castle for their kids, socialising in the garden. It's just part and parcel of having neighbours. We certainly don't sit around stewing over the fact we can hear a hedge cutter from our kitchen window.

Some people on MN (as well as a relative of mine) are ridiculously obsessed with peace and quiet and seem to think the world should monitor perfectly reasonable activities because of their sensitivities.

We've got one of those neighbours as well so I really sympathise!

Ours isn't so bad as he doesn't do it EVERY weekend, but in a way that's worse because it takes him months to finish projects and you never know when he'll be working on them e.g. you could be having a BBQ and he'll decide to start drilling. He's been putting a small extension (downstairs loo) onto the back of his house since last September and he still hasn't finished the job!

I would definitely ask your neighbour to hold off working until 9 a.m. and to please be finished by 5 at the absolute latest. Be nice but honest explaining that you can hear all his noise - he may be oblivious to how much racket he's making. Good luck!

AmICrazyorWhat2
I agree. Just a quick 'would you mind starting at 9 as my bedroom is on the front' would suffice.
No drama. No it's affecting my nerves. No I'm contemplating moving house. A simple polite request.

YADNBU that would drive me nuts how inconsiderate. I don't let my kids be noisy in the garden until at least 9am on the weekends I definitely wouldn't use tools or blare music out! Has anyone said anything to him?

NDN work all week although husband gets home around 3.30pm.
So weekdays are not too bad except for when he gets home. But EVERY weekend there is non stop noise

Perhaps you need to live where there are NO neighbours within earshot?
You have a problem whenever he's home basically.
I take it you don't work/outside the home?
Sounds like you're used to all the peace and quiet of the daytime and expect it to continue once people are home and going about their business.

If the time and noise and dirt bothers you so much - why not have a conversation with him?

I do think if its every weekend yanbu, I had garages next door to my old house.
Every bloody Sunday a load of men came round to their garage (about 5 of them) to fix motorbikes.
They had a really loud generator on as well until 11 PM.
My house used to shake, it scared my then 10 year old who has autism.
We did ask in the end if they could at least stop earlier.
But was told nope, they could do what they like until 11pm everday if they wanted to.
Some people just dont give a shit about anyone else.
I'm sure if it was roles reversed they would though.

We too have one of those neighbours. He's a carpenter and spends every weekend using a circular saw in the back garden, to cut up the wood he needs during the week. Literally all weekend, every weekend. There is also a house behind ours, fairly close, so the sound has nowhere to go. You can't hold a conversation in the garden. It's driving us and the other neighbours in the area mad as no one (9 houses around the one in question) can use their back gardens because of one person, plus the constant dust means that we can't hang washing out at the weekend as it comes in filthy. So inconsiderate.

bluebeck
No, I am not housebound, luckily. But I don’t think that going out to avoid the constant noise from next door should be my only option.
I would need to be away from my home all weekend, every weekend to escape it.

Dont underestimate how much effect a noisy inconsiderate neighbour can have on your life.
My NDNs start work most days at 7 and others at 5. They bang around inside the house before work. They dont have carpets which is inconsiderate. This is a choice not poverty. Most weekdays we are woken by all their noise long before we want or need to get up. Some evenings they do DIY. At weekends such as this morning they are up banging around before 7 am. Then the DIY starts and goes on till about 9 pm. We can also hear them talking over our tv. When I tried to discuss this with them I was told that I dont hear a sound.
How does anyone deal with someone who is stupid enough to think they know what another persons ears can hear?

8am is too early. I’m an early riser but still want a bit of peace first thing. The DIY is reasonable, some people just have to have something to do, but the music blaring is so selfish and thoughtless and so YANBU. We are sat in the garden today and playing music but at a volume that won’t disturb our neighbours, (even though one side have a 5 year old who loves to screech and scream all day and we would love to drown that out with loud music )

Some people are so thoughtless aren’t they OP. I would have to live next door to some of the posters on here that think blaring music at 8am at the weekend is perfectly reasonable. It’s not and any rational person will tell you that.

*hate to live

viques
Ah, I should’ve mentioned that when he gets home from work at around 3.30pm, he starts with the DIY out on the drive. So it’s not just weekends but weekday afternoons as well.

They don’t exactly sound like nightmare neighbours. I think you’re being a bit sensitive.

SavingSpaces2019
Yes, I do have a problem every time he is at home because it’s every time he is at home that he makes a noise.
Yes, I would definitely like to live with no neighbours within earshot, but at the moment that’s not possible.

For those asking if it’s a project and will therefore end at some stage....no, not really. He does constant DIY on the house and his hobby is making things out of wood so there is always something he is making. So no end in sight unfortunately.
I did moan once about my car being all dusty after I’d just had it cleaned and he sprayed it with the hose as I was driving off the drive!

No, you are NOT BU, we have lived in our house for 16 years, the first 12 of which we’re wonderful, then the attached neighbours moved. We have had four years of DIY, most weekends, but not all, so no,pattern to it, no notice. We have had to cancel 3 big family get togethers because once they start the noise is so bad that you cant hold a conversation.

For those saying the OP is moaning about nothing, I can only assume that you have never lived anywhere with a neighbour like this. It Is absolute hell. It is the lack of control I think, cannot plan anything, last year it started at 8am on Fathers Day, had planned late breakfast outside, but no , couldn’t happen. New Year’s Day, drilling into adjoining wall. Etc, etc. We have ‘had conversations’ but always some excuse. Nothing can be done about it. We want to move so can’t complain legally about it , and all extension and loft conversion done within permitted development rights, so no time limits set out.

By that token OP, I should take issue with the fact I can hear children on the street playing when I get in from work, and people socialising in their gardens and people mowing their lawns and using hedge trimmers. Maybe my neighbours should complain about me because I used a pressure washer over the weekend.

Go and speak to him and ask him to start a little later. If you're polite, reasonable and lose some of the hyperbole then most people would have no issue.

BossAssBitch what you descrive with your music is totally reasonable. Unfortunately if you lived next door to my relative then you'd be awfully anti social with your music blaring in the garden and your children would be wild and out of control. Some people are more sensitive to noise than others, but some in that group like to exaggerate because they think it supports their case. I was speechless when my relative said to me 'see Lola, see what I mean? This is what I have to live with every day'. It was perfectly acceptable neighbour noise but once relative had a bee in their bonnet about it they became fixated on it to the point of ridiculous.

Only an inconsiderate tosser, or an insensitive fool, could think nine hours straight of banging music plus power tools is not a problem - plus all the weekday hours. People pay a fortune to rent or buy their homes, most people in the UK work long hours and need space to relax. Why should some selfish bastard’s hobby take precedence over other people’s right to be able to unwind in their own homes? This one person is disrupting six other households, where babies might be sleeping, children studying for exams, people recovering from illness or just wanting to kick back and relax at the weekend after a long week’s work. Loud noise is dangerous for people’s health there are more and more studies demonstrating how damaging it is…If this guy goes on like this then it’s likely to be dangerous for him too, because at some point someone is going to snap…

OP persistent noise at any time is a problem, you should be able to get something done about the music and some limitations set on the DIY…the guidelines about noise don’t mean that persistent noise at any time of the day cannot be legally curbed. But if you talk to environmental health and you own your house you won’t be able to shift it easily…on the other hand it would be hard to sell at the moment, as this activity would be hard to conceal from potential buyers. I keep thinking about moving but there are so many stories on here about arsehole neighbours, I end up staying put because mine are decent.

Yanbu 8am is too early at the weekend, and it being constant would drive me potty.

Definitely go round and ask him if he could start a bit later. Also have a word with environmental health, i’ve no idea if they can or will do anything but i’d look into it.

8am on a weekend is definitely too early - fine as a one-off, but Saturday and Sunday every weekend isn't on.

I'd have a chat to him and see if he can be persuaded. He may not have any idea he's annoying, and most people won't want to annoy the neighbours. I'd also ask if he can turn down the bass on the music - it's usually the bass that is the annoying bit.

I had a similar conversation with the lad over the road who loves his cars and tinkering. Turned out well.

Hi maybe have a polite word with him so as to not escalate things and let him know the problem is bothering you maybe he don't realize he is annoying.