Selling hand-me-downs

[Motherof3feminists]

I'm not sure what the etiquette is here.

If you are given children's clothing/shoes as hand-me-downs is it bad form to sell them once outgrown? Should they be handed on if you can or given to a charity shop or given back to the person who gave them to you?

I have a large amount of items my son was given that no longer fit and am not sure what to do with them.

Thanks

Bad form? No, this is why eBay exists...

If I can get a bob or two for something, rather than nothing, I will!!!!
Use eBay, Gumtree etc etc.
Put any profit [after eBay fees etc] away for a treat purchase.

You can offer them back to the person who gave them, if they have younger children or might go on to? If they don’t want them definitely sell

IMO it's really bad form to sell things you've been given. Pay it forward. If I get given something and they don't want it back then I pass on free to someone else. I gave some really nice quality clothing on to a family member for their son and the other day I saw that she was selling it on her FB page to friends.

Yes, it is massively bad form! Never try to make money from kindness.

The people who were kind enough to give you the items could’ve sold them, but they chose to be kind.

If you don’t need them anymore pass them on to someone else or a charity shop.

Just double check that they were gifts not loans, it is possible that gifter may want them back if they are unexpectedly adding to their family or have a friend or relative that might want them.
Also they may be expecting them to be returned to sell themselves, particularly if it’s a sought after item or brand or something that would keep its value.

Check with the person you got them from first before you give them away or sell them. Some items of clothes really hold their value (tends to be the Swedish branded stuff from memory). If it’s stuff from primark I would donate them or give them away

If it were me, I'd prefer to pay it forwards. Ie give to a friend or charity. Morally, I wouldn't feel comfortable making money from something somebody has given me. I understand everyone is different though.

They were definitely gifts. The toys were loans and those were returned or will be returned once they are no longer played with. There are no smaller ones in their family to pass down to hence why they came to me.

Definitely don't sell them. As pp said they were a gift, check that they don't want them back then pay it forward. Either pass on to a friend who would appreciate them or give to a charity shop so they can benefit.

I pass on to another mum at school. There’s quite the cycle for clothes!

I’d double check if they want them back if not and if not charity shop them. I agree it’s bad form to sell them.
My SIL sold some of my old baby toys without checking with me first, then gleefully told me how much she got for them. I thought it was cheeky AF.

Ok so it's not ok.

Would those of you saying it's not ok feel the same about selling an unwanted gift that you received for yourself? Would you give back a gift after a year or two if you didn't want it anymore?

The difference with your analogy is that the items were not bought as a gift in the first place. The person could’ve sold the items themselves but though of you instead.